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Greetings to all.

My name is Matthew, and I was diagnosed with Aspergers officially in fall of 2010, though my mom had suspicions ever since 2005 and shared them with me, to my aggressive disbelief. It took further research on the syndrome, and the time it takes a person to reflect on something which seems really horrible, for me to fully accept it. At least there was the small relief of "Hey, all these years where it's seemed impossible to make and keep friends, there was a reason for it, I'm not just a complete screw up!" Though there's still a chance I am that too.

In addition to having AS, I came to accept my homosexuality when I was 14, which only served to alienate me from my parents and my (then) faith even before potentially being autistic was on the radar. Every day I am growing more comfortable with the fact I'm a homosexual Aspie atheist, but doubts still exist. In the end, I want my family to be happy and comfortable, I want to make friends who are happy and comfortable with me, and then a boyfriend or husband someday who is the same... but these goals seem impossible at times.

After having talked to a few other Aspies in the furry fandom and having nothing in common with them, I was afraid that maybe we were too unique even among each other. That is until I saw this website, which is more than moderately successful in uniting people who either are Aspies or know those who are. I'm hoping that being a member here will help me to become a better adjusted person, and a little less lonely in the world.

Thank you for taking the time to read my little intro, and if you have any suggestions about where else I should post after making an introduction, that would be super helpful and I'd appreciate it so much.

-Matthew, the concrete balloon

Maybe no one wants to be friends...

Hello Matthew and welcome to WP

You're not alone, I have trouble making and keeping friends too. You can post wherever you feel you want to!

Welcome to WP and I have the same issues you are going through and coming to terms with them isn't always easy so you are not alone out there-the things are only part of who you are-they are not all that you are.

What kind of things helped you most on this website after you made an intro thread that helped you make friends?

The biggest thing was finding out I wasn't alone in the world-there were people going through the same things I was-even though in the autistic spectrum we are all different we still have things that are common to the autistic spectrum and issues and how to deal with things like I have meltdowns and others also do and have troubles expressing emotions and reading emotions and that is one place i ran into a problem on here thinking a person I met IRL from here liked me and found that they didn't feel the same way about me and hurt me by saying it wasn't for the reason they said and basically lied about but for other reasons which I wont discuss here in detail.But just having a community to ask and also share your experiences with makes a difference-I still want friends/companions and a relationship in real life-I really do but it is difficult.

It sounds like you've had a lot of rough experiences. Being different is tough in high school, but it definitely does get better as you get older and other people mature. For what it's worth I've found that those painful experiences from grade school have made me more a more compassionate and tolerant person, and that if I am compassionate and tolerant towards others they can't help but eventually behave the same way towards me. Anyway, welcome to WP and I hope that you find what you're looking for here!

Welcome to Wrong Planet!