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Joined: 26 Mar 2012
Age: 45
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30 Mar 2012, 7:51 pm

Im a recently diagnosed asperger's and adhd (Always had that) 32 year old male. I also have a sleep disorder that requires pills to sleep. I am in a lone term relationship with a wonderful woman who I am putting thru hell with my disorder and I want to get better for her. I annoy her with my weird habits and I get too clingy with her. I drive her crazy and I dont wanna do that anymore. I love her a lot but have a hard time showing her that. I also have a hard time getting a job in my field. I have a college degree but am stuck delivering pizzas and I hate it. I need a good job so I can support my baby and not have to borrow from my parents all the time. Any advice would help. I cant lose her.

christen
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30 Mar 2012, 8:07 pm

I think for both of you it must be a difficult situation. But, I'm sure if you've been together long enough and if you both believe the love is strong enough that you and her can work through the difficulties, than I'm sure there will be a halfway point you both can meet and keep working through it.

PatBruin79
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30 Mar 2012, 8:15 pm

christen wrote:

thank you. I appreciate it. I think we can work thru this. I really love her and her dog too..

bookworm285
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30 Mar 2012, 9:49 pm

Well congratulations to both of you for sticking it out this long!! I'm sure your recent diagnosis will help her understand more and also help you understand too. Maybe you can do some of your weird habits in private. That's one possibility. (I have weird habits of my own too.)
Maybe knowing how much she loves you will help you cling less. And yes, make an effort to SHOW her you love her and TELL her! But it sounds as if you 're doing good, because she has stuck by you all this time.

As far as a job, I completely understand. I have a college degree also and am on disability, after many jobs where I was under-employed. I admire you for sticking to a job you hate to support your family.

Hang in there!