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I am watching movie Extremely Loud Incredibly Close & googled Asbergurs, read, researched and and think I may be an aspi.
Always diff, hetero, odd, social misfit, "0" empathy, hate social interaction, awkward say- seeing people, greeting, conversing, even people I know well, can't carry long phone conversations--2 min is long time,even with wife or daughter, Mom etc.some ritualistic behavior, probably OCD, not clumsy much but some proprioception problems. Oh yea, I can never speak my mind, REALLY piss people off.
I am 50's + Physician, so not terribly dumb, but need a little help and support.
Where do I start ?
There has to be something to I can do to manage this w/o getting into Medical / Psych treatment, at least be more comfortable in life, I've been alone with this my whole life.

Welcome to WP!

hi,

i'm an ex-doc (internist) due to failing at hospital politics.

since then i've learned to be moderately good at small talk. i've always had empathy, but not able to show it well in all circumstances. people think of me as quiet but pleasant.

i need alone time to recharge. working part-time is a good fit for me.
ask questions and i'll give answers my best shot.

Thanks for reply's, Cathylynn I appreciate your offer, I did take a few online test after my first post, most likely I am an aspi according to the data, never knew or in denial until now.
Now that I know, I am unsure of action steps to improve my situation and any advice will help.
I am pretty functional, just ill at ease with many situations and of course mind cycling at light speed 24/7, yes, even in my sleep.
What works socially and personally for some relief ? seems these "feelings" could be put to use somehow for the good of all instead of causing problems.
Thanks for this board, and I feel some better just acknowledging and addressing the problem(s).
Any help appreciated all and I will research and study more myself.
Thanks

i don't have an official diagnosis either. it's unnecessary unless you need some sort of accomodation at work. my nephew was diagnosed. i read about him and found a description of myself.

a good book on small talk is debra fine's "the fine art of small talk." there are others, but it's a good starting place.

i think just mostly accepting yourself as you are is a good start. i always used to be late for meetings to avoid the pre-meeting small talk. now i'm on time and if anyone doesn't like my quietness, it's their problem.

the mind racing thing probably isn't asperger's unless somehow asperger's experiences have made you anxious. have you tried guided imagery hypnosis (you can buy CD's) or meditation?

Hi Doccbst! Welcome to Wrong Planet! Check out the interesting and helpful articles and forums here. There are also lists of books you can get that may help you. Take a look especially at the Autism/Asperger's forum. That should give you some leads to follow for help.

I don't have all the answers myself. I am still on my own journey of discovery. I am in my early 50s and first heard about Asperger's about 8-10 years ago. I read the few articles I came across over those years and saw myself in each one. Several years ago I started actively researching it and took one of the online tests, which confirmed it. Not long after that my sister contacted me to tell me that she had just learned about Asperger's and believed I have it. I told her about my own research and that it confirmed that, so I have further independent confirmation of my condition.

Life is tough on the spectrum, but it was a great relief to finally know why I am so different from most people. Not knowing was far worse.--It was very stressful wondering what kind of freak I was, and why I was this way.

I think the Autism/Asperger's forum has posts that can give you some tips on how to deal with your particular problems. Over the many decades of my own life I have learned coping methods by trial and error, that I have since read about being helpful for people on the spectrum. So do take advantage of the resources available here at WP. It has already helped me a lot.

And remember, you are among friends here at WP!

Welkome to WP

Mick

Welcome to WP.
have you read Dr. George Sheehan's Running and Being? Your post made me think of it.

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