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I was diagnosed as an aspie in Jr high

I'm a college student majoring in computer science. I'm usually not interested in anything whatsoever, but occasionally I go through exhausting periods of obsession with things I usually shouldn't care about. These obsessions could be anywhere from an hour to a few months. The only constant is that I want to know everything about the singular subject until I lose interest in which case I forget most of the things I learned.

Recently, I was invited to a party by someone and wanted some info I could find about how other aspergers people get through their problems, so I googled, "aspergers forum" and here's where I am.

Hey, new guy welcome!

Welcome, safir. You're "usually not interested in anything whatsoever"? Well, from your opening salvo, I can tell you're interested in computer science, surfing the internet, going to parties, writing and probably a whole lot more since you're in college and receiving a well-rounded education in several discilines. Cheers, mate. You're among friends here.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

The fact that you managed to get invited to a party is a good thing. Rule # 1; I would say to set a limit on your alcohol intake, if you do drink. While it helps you come out of your shell a little, too much can cause you to get blacklisted by making an azz of yourself or leave you in a vulnerable situation

When I'm in a group setting, there's bound to be SOMEbody there that has an interest in common. I won't always know which ones they are right away, most of the time the host will introduce me. I try to keep the monologuing under control. Obviously the eye contact is hard for me, I'll try to focus on their shoulder or something. When I talk to familiar people, I've found that 3 sentences/3 lines is good, once I'm able to answer the 'how are you doing?' part.

Your irrelevant past interests might contain enough useful facts to be an asset, especially if any of them are cars or reality shows. If nobody else there knows computers you might instantly become the most popular guy in the room if you walk them through their IT issues

IMO nobody there but your friend has to know your condition unless you feel at ease disclosing that, it's really nobody's business unless someone's safety becomes an issue.

If you do talk to a woman don't give her your contact info before she gives you hers. With that in mind try not to base whether it was a good night or a bad one by the quantity of people you meet. Afterward be sure to let your friend know what you enjoyed about the party and ask what their plans are for the next one

HTH and glad you're here

Welcome to WP
I remember my first party, I only knew half a dozen people so spent my night rotating between groups and sitting on a chair and chatting to whoever sat next to me.
I like sports so was able to find a common intrest with most people there, my mistake was having too narrow of topics.
Whenever I go to a party now I have a few backup topics that I pick for the setting. Most of the night depends on me listening to a topic before walking into a conversation to prepare myself.
Take note of 2wheels advice about alcohol: I know many people who have done something they will regret for a long time while intoxicated!

Welkome to WP

Mick