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Just a little note to introduce myself after lurking in the shadows for a few days...

I'm an adult aspie, with a 5yo aspie son. Basically found out we were both on the spectrum at the same time earlier this year. Been hanging around some other forums for a while and thought I'd try here on the reccomendation of someone.

DOn't know how much I'll be posting as I've got a lot of other things taking up my time. The Job and aforementioned 5yo being most of it!

Hiya welcome to WP. It doesn't matter how often you post, its what you post that counts.(and when you are here have fun)

What's that like? I want to have a baby, but I don't know how I'd handle a child like I was. Seriously, how would one deal with their kid being bullied and not fitting in at school if you're intimidated by the thought of talking to the school personnel?

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Wow, I just did my first post but yours sounds like we have the same situation! I suspect alot of adults figure this out through our kids.

Welcome!

What's it like? An adventure and scary sometimes. I'm trying to give coach my son thru social issues, but its not like I have great skills there myself! Fortunately the wife is good at the social stuff. I feel like a teacher just one step ahead of my student some days. Some of the sensory stuff is easier as I tend to avoid the things that bother him (crowded noisy bright places), but what kind of examle does that set? But there is good too... I understand him in a way that my NT wife can't. We can ride in the car, swing, or play with legos for hours... and just be happy doing that.

We went thru 2 preschools (withdrew from one, expelled from the other) before we got a real evaluation for kiddo. He's an only child so we had nothing to compare him to, and I kept saying "But I used to do that!" or "We don't seem to have that problem with him." In some ways he and I were/are very similar as young children (bright, pedantic, socially clueless, poor imaginative play, endearing to adults, generally on the hyposensititive side of sensory issues) and in others very different (I was more passive, he is much more "active but odd" socially). My mother is likely in the PDD realm someplace, so I have some idea of what it is like to grow up with that kind of parent.

Fortunately bullying has not been an issue yet, but dealing with the school has... Our solution? hire an advocate to push and persuade for us. I'm not very assertive except within my own area of expertise... so when this was suggested to us by a family we know with a child on the spectrum, we jumped on it. Expensive but VERY worth it.

hope that shed some light.

I'll try to keep it nontrivial. Fun is the name of the game when I have time

welcome!


I have two sons...one with autism, the other an aspie...I am almost positive I myself am an aspie. (chatting with the psych to get an affirmation.)


I think even with limited time, you will find great resources and understanding here. welcome.

Just read your first post. I'm a few years younger at 34, but Nobody really "suspected" anything with me. I was "Bright" or "Gifted" and somewhat different... I did have some speech therapy early in school, but nobody seems to know why as my family seems to remember me as being very well spoken from a very early age... so somebody must have picked up on my pragmatic language deficits... I had the motor and sensory issues, as well as a lot of the social ineptitude as well.

But yes I like may others have slid by with some other label for many years. It wasnt till we started to dig into my son's issues with preschool that the symptoms we saw in him matched my own childhood. The psych that evaluated him even asked if he reminded us anyone in our family, and I said "ME!". after a 10 minute discussion of y background, the comment was made that I was very likely AS myself and it had never been seen because it was unkonwn when I was a child. It was also commented that a formal DX at my age was difficult and probably not worth the effort if I was "Functioning" which I am in my own little niche. So thanks to my son I now have a name for why I've felt different all my life.