Hi! I am hoping to find some new friends\support

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I've been dealing with social anxiety, general anxiety, phobia of public speaking, panic attacks, a heart condition called inappropriate sinus tachycardia <Frequent palpitations>, depression, possibly high functioning autism, and on the verge of Agoraphobia. Whew, long list right! I'm 26 and most of these problems started when I was 13, with the heart condition. I've seen a couple of crappy phycologists, on my own doing at 2O, that have prescibed me many different anxiety medications. Clonazepam is the only one to take off the edge. <that I've tried so far> I've gone in circles with trying to deal with all of this. Mostly I just ignore my own feelings and stay at home with my two daughters. I try to stay away from everything that causes me stress, but now it feels like I have NO life whatsoever. But even at home I have stress because my "husband" <we're not actually officially married> of 8 years, father of my two daughters, is an alcoholic, he has ADD, and is a compulsive liar. I get so jelious of him because socializing is what he does best. Yet he also drives me so crazy! So yeh, I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm sure I need help, but I don't know how to get "real" help. I would love to find something I'm good at which I can make money off of. I'm just to scared to step up and do anything. Basically I can not find a way to make myself happy. Any advice? Thanks for letting me share.

hiya Sharrow welcome to our neat little club
a lot of other mothers ended up taking a deep breath and uprooting with their children, to a different environment, at great cost to themselves and their children. that is a choice only you can make.

Ok, so i've been reading on here and it seems to me that if I haven't been properly diagnosed with Autism or Asperger's, then I probably shouldn't be posting. Well fair enough. But I just wanted to say that I asked my mom about it, which was extremely hard for me to do. She said that she does think that I am on the Autism spectrum, and she also thinks that she has slight autism as well. More than slight autism in my prospective.

my late mother wasn't aware of autism per se, but she surely knew that something was the matter with her, she related such self-opinions to me fairly often. she also thought correctly that "something was the matter" with me as well.

There are plenty of others who are self-diagnosed, like you, who post on this forum. Even if you end up going for a diagnosis and are found to be neurotypical, you are still welcome on this forum.

Living with an alcoholic is not a good environment for either you or your kids. Consider moving back in with your parents until you can get on your feet. As for your other problems, here are some suggestions:

- Exercise. It generates mood boosting endorphins.

- Read funny stories and watch funny shows. Humor also generates endorphins.

- Eat healthy, and enough of it. A healthier diet will boost your immune system and is also good for your mind. Skimping on amount of food leads to depression, crankiness, and being more prone to get sick.

- Get enough rest. Being tired leads to depression, crankiness, and being more prone to get sick, too.

- Listen to and/or play music. This is mood boosting.

- Take courses, either in person, or online. Some of the online ones are free. The in person ones are a good way to meet people.

- Volunteer. There are people worse off than we are, who would really appreciate the help. It's also a good way to meet people, and boost your self image and mood.

- Take up a hobby or join a club. These are good ways to meet people who share your interests.

- Get involved in community activities. Attend town meetings, events at local libraries and other local organizations. Attend local sporting events, fairs, and art shows. Attend and/or participate in local theater groups. Attend events held at local houses of worship. These are all great ways to meet people and boost your self image and mood.

- Employment/or self employment. Great way to meet people, boost self image, put money in your wallet, gain experience. Since you have been having trouble finding work as an employee, perhaps you should consider self employment. There are many types to choose from.

>> Lawn mowing/yard work/gardening.
>> House cleaning.
>> Errand/shopping service.
>> Wait for service people, so the home owner/renter doesn't have to take time off from work.
>> House/pet sitting.
>> House chores for the elderly/disabled.
>> Handyman.
>> Tutor.
>> Computer maintenance/repair.
>> Website design.
>> Other website based businesses.
>> Paint houses indoor/outdoor.

There are many other self employment opportunities. Your local libraries will have books with lists and descriptions of them, so look into it.

Now, go and do something, and good luck!

Sounds like you need a friend to talk [email protected] ~ I'm on FB & I'd <3 to be ur friend.

You remind me a lot of myself. TTYSoon!

Thank you all for the welcomes and advice! I have been trying to improve myself latley, and actually be honest with myself. Witch is hard because i've been running away from my problems for so long. I've been excercizing and eating right, it's just that darn socializing that always get me. *Kimg123* I most definetly need a friend to talk to! I have FB also, that would be great.

Hi, please notice that *Kimg123* is a brand new member who just joined yesterday. Which is fine, might be entirely on the up and up, but it is a liitle bit unusual. Please take it medium step by medium step.

Following up on questor's earlier suggestion to move back with your parents for a while, possibly, depending on what kind of relationship you have. Additionally, is there a female friend, maybe even from several years back who might like to have you and your kiddos as roommates?

I have struggled with depression, may have tried prozac at age 26 if the young psychiatrist had not been such a jerk about the whole thing (literally saying, "I'm not going to justify my prescription")

I have read that everyone's biochem is a liitle different and consequently one antidepressant may work great for one person and only so-so or not at all for another. That in a respectable sense it is trial and error. And I've got to figure the same is largely true with anti-anxiety medication. Also read that it's sometimes important to step down from an antidepressant in stages even if the damn thing doesn't seem to be working.

Some drinking in my family. Think alcoholics go through phases where they're more functional or not. Should still treat you respectfully including not lying, but sure seems like that is sometimes just beyond them.

Welkome to WP

Mick

Really?? What are you trying to say about me? I'm not good with indirectness.