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I'm glad to have found this forum!

I've recently realized that I do, indeed, have Aspergers. I grew up with a brother who was also on the ASD, and have wondered for years if I might not be as well. But, I always thought, "Oh, I don't act/seem like he did," and anyone I've ever brought it up to told me that there's no way that I could be, because I didn't act like *insert x sterotype here*. So, I ignored my wonders, and kept stumbling through life. But, recently, I read a web page on how Asperger's presents differently in women than in men, and everything I read was like reading my own autobiography. More reading and searching later, here I am, finally beginning to understand why I've felt like such an alien, why, as a kid, my peers held no interest for me, but I loved to talk with adults and play with other kids who were on the spectrum, why people confuse me and make me nervous, why I find myself constantly fiddling with the sound on the TV (can't be too quiet, or I can't understand what they're saying--but can't be too loud, or I get overwhelmed and lose focus!), driving my husband crazy. Why my husband gets upset, and asks why when he tries to tell me how he feels, I steamroll over him, ignoring his feelings or equating them with my own. ( Him: "I'm having a terrible day, and so sad!" Me: "Oh? Well, my foot hurts, and I have a headache, and I'm really worn out!" Him: "I just wanted you to listen and understand me!" Me: "I'm trying to--that's why I'm telling you about my similar experiences!" *Insert mutual confusion and frustration*)

I am going to be seeking a diagnosis. I am really embracing this new understanding of myself, and hope that I can learn to interact with the people that I love better, while also letting them understand me, finally! I'm 23 years old, a wife, and a childhood abuse survivor, with a TON of anxiety and social phobia. I am also the mother to two little girls (3 years old, and almost 4 months) and want to make sure that I don't end up socially isolating them (unless, you know...they take after mom and are in to that kind of thing! Ha. In which place we can stay home together and sort rocks and gemstones. )

Anyway. I don't have anyone to talk to in "real life," let alone another person on the spectrum, so I really hope to find a "home" on this forum.

Thanks for reading, and, again, "Hello!"

Welcome!

you sound like a good mom. welcome to WP.

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Thanks, everyone! I'm happy to be here.