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Hello, my name is Bethesda and I am very confused about whether I have Asperger's or not.

Let me tell you a bit about myself.

For the Qualifying Standards:
- I cannot look people in the eye. It just scares the heck out of me. My eyes always wonder around the room when I'm talking to people, and I hate having people look at me. I just kind of freeze up when they do.
- I have three people that I would consider friends. I talk to one of them only twice a week, at most. I am a young teenage girl. I don't text or call people or write them letters. I don't really think that is normal.
- I don't even know how to explain emotional reciprocy, so I think that I probably have that one.

For the Repetitive Tasks:
- I am completely obsessed with Nintendo. I honestly spend up to five hours a day on the Internet reading stuff about Nintendo.
- I am very stubborn and I absolutely hate change. Unexpected things also terrify me. I like to know what I am supposed to do, what is supposed to happen, and stick to a routine. Always.

I am a perfectionist, too. To be honest, I'm not going to explain everything here, so if you want to know more, you can just read my blog. However, one thing that doesn't fit is the fact that I use sarcasm and understand it.

My mother is convinced that having Asperger's is completely out of the question and she blames it all on high intellect. However, after doing research online, I've discovered that all of these little things, and more, must be Asperger's, however mild it may be. I think my mother is in denial.

Could you guys give me some help?

-sedasky

My mother massively fluctuates between being silent and outright saying I am faking it because I want to be difficult ("You were not like this before high school" - "You have relapsed, do we need to go back to see the doctor?" - etc.). She has been complaining about my personality and my disregard for people/social situations most of my life, so I largely ignore them now. It comes from the whole concept of a parent not wanting their child to be "different" because most people do have a negative view on the ASD spectrum. There are different levels of acceptance/denial, the lower one being completely denying it and believing that a "cure" will completely "fix" all the child's problems. I will say though high intelligence can result from Aspergers - rarely do the symptoms go the other way. I know a lot of intelligent people who are perfectly normal. So your mother's argument does not hold very well.

If you have it, you have it - there is nothing wrong with having it. If you are lucky to find ways of helping, take them. I will say there are often more symptoms that people do not know about: low muscle tone, sleeping issues, digestive problems, Seizures, ADD/ADHD, Hypersensitivity/Hyposensitivity, and so on. They occur in the majority, but not all - so do not panic if you find yourself "without" one of these (trust me, you will be thankful to not have it).