A life not meant to be lived

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"Give your opinion about this lifestyle"

I'm 18. I have completely isolated myself. I was diagnosed with an Autism disorder (first Asperger, then PDD-NOS). I never went to parties (maybe a few) or never went out in my entire life.
Always stayed inside. All feelings left inside.

I have no friends. I know people, but I can't call them "friends". Those "friends" bullied me through my youth but to them it seems normal. Friends hurt you in the end.
I have no girlfriend. I'm not ugly, but I never pushed through.

Not long ago I decided to put an end to it. I completely quit school / education few months ago. I'm doing now nothing except smoking / using drugs (which are not important) and cigarettes and helping my parents (which I sometimes get paid for so it's good).

Still, almost everyday I have issues with my parents. When that happens I leave the house for some time and walk for some time in the open air. However, each time I'm wondering why I haven't jumped off that bridge I'm walking on.

Last few years suicide thoughts entered my head and never really got out.

Everyday is exactly the same.

- Remy

You are obviously depressed, and need help for that, so see a psych doc. There are also some things you can do on your own to help yourself:

- First, stop with the smoking and drugs. They ruin your physical and mental health, and in the end will only make your depression worse.

- Exercise. It generates safe, natural, mood boosting endorphins.

- Read funny stories and watch funny shows. Humor also generates endorphins.

- Eat healthy, and enough of it. A healthier diet will boost your immune system and is also good for your mind. Skimping on amount of food leads to depression, crankiness, and being more prone to get sick.

- Get enough rest. Being tired leads to depression, crankiness, and being more prone to get sick, too.

- Listen to and/or play music. This is mood boosting.

- Take courses, either in person, or online. Some of the online ones are free. The in person ones are a good way to meet people.

- Volunteer. There are people worse off than we are, who would really appreciate the help. It's also a good way to meet people, and boost your self image and mood.

- Take up a hobby or join a club. These are good ways to meet people who share your interests.

- Get involved in community activities. Attend town meetings, events at local libraries and other local organizations. Attend local sporting events, fairs, and art shows. Attend and/or participate in local theater groups. Attend events held at local houses of worship. These are all great ways to meet people and boost your self image and mood.

- Employment/or self employment. Great way to meet people, boost self image, put money in your wallet, gain experience. Perhaps you should consider self employment. There are many types to choose from.

>> Lawn mowing/yard work/gardening.
>> House cleaning.
>> Errand/shopping service.
>> Wait for service people, so the home owner/renter doesn't have to take time off from work.
>> House/pet sitting.
>> House chores for the elderly/disabled.
>> Handyman.
>> Tutor.
>> Computer maintenance/repair.
>> Website design.
>> Other website based businesses.
>> Paint houses indoor/outdoor.

There are many other self employment opportunities. Your local libraries will have books with lists and descriptions of them, so look into it.

Now, go and do something, and good luck!

"never give up." winston churchill to a group of orphan boys

life is about giving youself the best possible chance over and over. sooner or later, something will go right.

Thanx for the advice fellas!
Oh yeah, I tested my AQ and it is 19, which my age will be in the end of October aswell

BTW, quitting smoking / using drugs is too hard. I'll see if I can do things whilst being on drugs, cause I need them, and they need me.

Sweetie, you are obviously depressed, as previous poster stated. (((Hugs))) I've been there, we all have I believe. I hear ya - when each day is the same and each day you wonder when are things going to get better. Please stop smoking and using drugs - they are not, not helping. The temporary satisfaction is not worth what it is doing to you. Follow the awesome suggestions from previous poster on things to do, especially eatting better. Eat whole foods - no fast food. A simple mixed green salad will be a great start.

Please know how special you are and get the help you deserve and need. Take care and keep us posted!

We want you here for the Spectrum Civil Rights Movement. I want you here for the Spectrum Civil Rights Movement.

We can be colleagues and from that friendship may dance. Now, we can't promise friendship off the bat, that's too much to promise. But we can endeavor to be good and honorable colleagues and then who knows.

I'm going to say, you are largely right about how bad things are, but there's still hope. I mean, if we meet extraterrestrials and they ever write an accurate history of the human race, we are a hierarchical species above all else. We don't do right by others, bullying and especially the bystander effect is statistically 'normal' although corrosive, unnecessary, everything else.

All the same, you can meet people you have things in common with. Now, many of the things listed above often don't work. For example, I don't think I've ever met someone through a class. Most fellow 'students' (cough, cough) want to do the minimum amount of work required, certainly don't want to engage the subject intellectually for that's likely to be a major distraction, etc.

But if you can light-touch enough different groups, if you can learn skills of medium disclosure and medium investment (which I still struggle with), some things will break your way. Especially if you can accept that most people are just friended up (have enough friends) for the time being. And then if you try snd be a low-key builder of others even though you will often fail, as I certainly do, the whole thing is likely to hurt less.

*hug* It gets better. Hang in there. You have us for support if you ever need it.

What is the Spectrum Civil Rights Movement? Sorry, I'm new here. ;l

Hi, it's something I hope develops, and they are further along in the UK as far as autism activism and self-advocacy.

The way I look at it, it is the right to authentically be oneself, even if different in ways which matter.

Here's one organization:

http://autisticadvocacy.org/

Very beginning in most areas of the United States. Some success I've heard in California, New England, and Seattle Washington area.

As one example of activism, I'd like to see us take on and challenge human resource departments and standard hiring practices, for example that normal doesn't need to be defined so narrowly, and that they can look for reasons to hire rather than reasons not to hire. One thing we'll be up against is a lot of people's deeply engrained beliefs that the way they got a job was fair and square.

Welkome to WP

Mick