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Hello everyone,

I'm Heather, and I have just joined this site because I've started actively searching for ways to help my (just turned) 10 year old son in dealing with Aspergers.

My husband was diagnosed with Aspergers as an adult (age twenty-eight) and it has been nothing short of a war dealing with all of the things that come along with it. He's always been told that he suffers from depression, but I knew that was something else beyond that. I urged him to see a psychologist and many professionals/tests/therapy sessions later he was diagnosed with Aspergers. He will tell you that "he has aspergers-like tendencies", however -- he never admits to actually having it.

Anyway, we have 3 children and my 2nd son has been showing signs of Aspergers since he was a baby. I just put it down to "nuture" rather than "nature" (i.e. he was just copying the behavior he saw exhibited by his father) but I've now accepted that he does have this and it's been confirmed.

I desperately want my son to avoid all of the problems that my husband has gone through. I want to teach him from very young how to handle things like changes in routines, dealing with overwhelming emotions, negative self-talk, and social cues. I just don't want him to suffer all of his life when I should and could have been teaching him how to handle his Aspergers. I hate 'labeling' him, but I also think that he needs to own that he thinks differently than other people and therefore that label is also a good thing. It's like a double-edged sword. Hopefully someone else can relate....

Anyway, that's me. I can already see that I'm going to gain a lot of wisdom and (hopefully) understanding for my husband and son from this website.

Welcome, and I hope you find the advice you're looking for here.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Welcome Heather.

I recommend a martial arts class, because it teaches people with AS self-control and helps them be around normal people. That's what I have done, and its helped me for the better! Hope that helps!

Welcome

You can't change your son's Asperger's, but you can try giving him the support systems he needs.

I get extra support with my meltdowns and such at school.

Kids in my class made fun of me, yes, but the ones who knew I was an Aspie treated me kindly and those who couldn't accept it didn't bug me at all.

Welcome to WP!

Be sure to give yourself time to absorb and process what you see and hear about AS. It's like being born left-handed in a right-handed world.

Welkome to WP

Mick