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Hey,

This is probably going to be a long post, but... well, a while ago I came across the Wikipedia article on Asperger's completely by chance, I matched the criteria perfectly. I'm 99.9% sure I have Asperger's. Never actually been diagnosed, and I really don't want to tell my parents about Asperger's 'cause I know they'd send me off to a shrink or something.

I was amazed when I found this site, though. I can relate to all you guys perfectly! I've always felt so alone, but it makes me really happy to know that I'm not. All my life I've had social problems and been different to everyone else. I really don't know how to interact with people and I've always been seen as the "black sheep". Everyone at my school has a misguided perception of me, they either think I'm just a depressed emo, or a social ret*d. I just can't respond to people in normal ways. I also dread talking to new people and I only have a few friends...

A lot of people have told me that I'm eerily quiet, and a bit scary in the way that I just gaze off when they're talking to me. Is that just me, or are all Aspie's quiet? I just don't see the point in verbalizing my every thought, I don't know why anyone would. I've even been described as a mute . Awkward social situations seem to be an everyday thing for me, whenever someone tries to talk with me, I find it hard to look at them and I always say something strange, and afterwards I feel pretty stupid because I don't really know what I said...

I'm also a very isolated person. I pretty much live in my bedroom, sitting at my computer. I hate it when my parents have visitors come round too, I'm always expected to come out and be "sociable". God, I wish they understood that I just want to be left alone... I also play a lot of video games and I'm always on gaming forums and stuff, and that's pretty much all I'm interested in. At school people tell me that I'm "obsessed" with games and computers. It might be true to some extent, but everyone has hobbies, don't they?? It makes me so angry the way people judge me like that...

I've never had a girlfriend, either (I'm sixteen). It's pretty hard for me to speak to the opposite sex. A little embarrassing to talk about, but I think you guys'll understand. I'm also told that I'm no good at sports or throwing and catching, but I don't know why I'd want to be, lol. Sport seems futile and pointless to me. I don't think I have trouble with motor skills like walking or getting around, though. My only problem with walking, is stairs. I feel awkward using stairs because I don't know weather to step on every step, or on every second one. That sounded a little strange, didn't it

Well, I hope you guys understand me, and I know there's a lot more to talk about. See you later! My real name's Justin, by the way.

Hello, and welcome to the Wrong Planet. We dunno where the right one is, so this'll need to do for now.

Though I have only minor AS, I understand you. I'm a gamer, plain and simple... and basically, Hi, and I hope we can be friends. Knowing how well I connect with people, that chance sounds probable.

You go to prove that Autism is a way of thought. Not a disability.

About the girlfriend thing. Who cares, it's your choice and doesn't reflect badly IMO.

Now pick yourself up and get posting! XD

G'day, Justin! I found this site after it was brought to my attention by my mum heading up to this years exams (which are all over now, thank goodness!). Like you, I was on Wikipedia, and the link was at the bottom. I was a bit hesitant to join at first, but now I don't regret a thing! I'm also quiet and keep to myself, although I do speak out when I feel like I need to. I'm like Pyth here in that I have minor AS, but I'm also like you in the way that I love videogames. I hang out on the GameFAQs forum, and despite being banned (for reasons I didn't know at the time), I'm back using a friends e-mail. If you want, I can PM you the new username I have and which game boards I hang out in over there. I'm sure we'll be good friends.

Welcome to Wrong Planet! We're yet to find WP's moon, we fear it was stolen by a pack of heartless NT's (not that they're all like that!).

Thanks guys. It means a lot to me I just started a thread on Xbox Live over in the games section as well, so take a look at that if you're interested

Welcome to Werbert's Planet, iddqd. I am Sahcrel Lacresh. Garlic created me 13 billion years ago. Selrahc Alhersc murdered me. Garlic resurrected me. Werbert killed Selrahc. And ate him. Mustard resurrected Selrahc. Lord Greyhelium is going to help me find him and kill him. We won't eat him.

Is that so? Thanks for sharing.

Heya, i like your avatar, is that from Doom, perhaps, a Lost Soul?

They talk like that a lot...

Welcome! I think I know how you feel. I am obsessed with computers, electronics, and technical theater (I design lights and sound for plays at my school). Even don't get my obsession with theater.

When I was your age I hadn't had a gf either. I still haven't found a serious relationship but getting out there and talking to hot chicks gets easier with time.

Hi, Justin!

Welcome to Wrongplanet!

I hope you enjoy posting here!

Hello, Justin.

From your description, I'd say you've a lot of Aspie characteristics.

People - most of them people not in my classes - have, during my school career, looked at me a number of times, engaged in eye contact, and not getting a response, asked, "Can't you talk?" Unless I know you, I can't distinguish who you're talking to... so thus I don't respond.

In ninth grade English class we had to write a letter describing another person in our class. I recall the girl who had to write about me commenting that I am quiet and for the most part don't talk unless spoken to. Even in a recent IEP meeting my German teacher had to interject that I was usually quiet in class...

Not that I am a quiet person if you get to know me, but I have been described as it.

EDITI love the avatar! I still play the old DooM and DooM II once in a while, although I found lost souls very annoying.

Wow, I don't know what to say. It's overwhelming. All you guys are great, I feel like I belong here I have a lot more questions for you all, but I'll keep them for another time Can't wait to get to know you all better, you all seem so interesting!

And yeah, Doom is my number one favorite game... Poor graphics by todays standards, but still so much fun to play! Gahh, I love that game! Brings back lots of memory's.

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I am the great lord of Discordia and the man in black at the same time. I am the Crimson King and I rule these forums with an iron fist! Bow down or die!

Welcome to the forum, its great!

Flagg is lying. Emperor Werbert rules these forums with an iron fist.

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Welcome to WP!

Tim

Sounds Aspie to me.

Well, Asperger's isn't a mental illness; but your parents might just send you off to a shrink... AS is more of a neurological thing, having to do with the way your brain makes connections and thinks about things. It's in the same category as autism (which, to parents, is either way scary or makes them say "you're not a ret*d kid rocking in the corner, you can't be autistic", which is what my mom said when I told her I had been diagnosed with AS at age 22). And that's in the same category as ADHD, which is really common, changes the way you think and ends you up with talents to balance out the bad parts--just like Asperger's. So you basically have skills and talents, and you have weak spots, and together they're called "Asperger Syndrome".

You'll have to get an official diagnosis if you want official help--social skills training, or sensory-integration help (if you're overly sensitive to stuff, there's desensitization therapy that can help), or help for comorbid conditions like depression or social anxiety, or learning help like tutoring or a quiet room to take tests in or permission to type papers instead of write. It's easier to get a diagnosis when you're a kid, if you need one, because your parents' insurance pays for it. Some people want a diagnosis just to get official confirmation of their own theory that they're Aspies. But if you don't want or need a diagnosis--if you don't need outside help, and you can learn how to overcome AS weaknesses on your own--then why bother?

Not all Aspies are quiet. Many are; others have the opposite problem--impulsively verbalizing every thought. Or else we'll lecture on about topics of special interest--for example, don't get me started on cats or psychology! I'm somewhere in between "quiet" and "lecturer" myself.

This is a typical Aspie special interest, also called "obsession" or "perseveration". Computers are common as special interests because they operate logically, which appeals to the concrete Aspie mind. If you have ADHD or poor attention control on top of your Asperger's, computer games are probably especially appealing because they keep your attention--which is nice when you can't usually keep your attention on something. In any case, Aspie special interests have their pluses and minuses: You will become an expert on those topics, and maybe make a career out of them; but they pretty much take over your life, and other people, incapable of such persistence, will often think you're a bit weird.

Also pretty typical. Sixteen is pretty young yet, though; so don't worry about it. Many Aspies are late bloomers. Remember: The opposite sex is just as human as anyone else. Try making friends, if you can, instead of trying anything romantic--just talking to a female friend will help you understand girls more. We're not that different, really.

Nope, pretty familiar. Technical term is "dyspraxia"--you don't have very good communication between brain and muscles, so you're a little clumsy. And I don't see the point in sports, either, except to play them for fun... but I'd have to find other Aspies to play with, or else little kids, because otherwise I'd be completely overmatched!

Welcome to the forums. Hope you find it informative.