Hello, I am new here, and I am confused

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I am confused people. That's right. Completely confused. First of all, let me introduce myself. I am not going to get too personal here, but here goes it. I am around the age of 21 and am currently an undergrad student at a college in Georgia. I am involved in a social organization on campus, but I am not going to get into detail as to what that organization is at the moment. I have lived in GA my entire life and was raised up as the only child in my family. Being the only child, I feel that I was prone to shyness. I have always been somewhat quiet, but it was never a problem in school. I graduated from high school with honors, and I took many honors and AP classes. Even in high school, I wasn't that popular, but I still had a nice friend base. As you all can tell, I may have been kind of quiet growing up, but I never really had many social problems outside of maybe getting picked on on rare occasions, even throughout high school. Then comes college. I started my first semester two years ago, and started to make friends with guys on my hall. Well, long story short, I started hearing a hand full of people labeling me as "socially awkward", something I had NEVER heard at any point in my life prior to that. Then the next year, sophomore year, one of my hallmates, a future fellow member of the "organization" I mentioned, starts referring to me as autistic. Well, I feel like if I were autistic, then I would have had many problems along the way, but I really haven't. However, this has kept me paranoid. I mean, the organization I'm in in college is a SOCIAL organization. I may not be that outgoing, but I was at least given an invitation to join that organization. But then agian, I've STILL been labeled "socially awkward" by a few guys in the organization. I just need people to help me out here. I had never been labeled "socially awkward", "autistic", or "Asperger's" EVER in my life. No one had even once suggested that I should be tested for it, as I was able to carry on conversations and what not easily as a child. But I need people to discuss this with. I hope I can be some help to you all too! Thanks!

You're confused? If so, you and me, both. I've been tested last year and it was a shock for me and my mom. I never had the ability to make friends, and is a really bad disadvantage for me. Although i found lots of friends that understood me in this site. Is really great. Take it from me, an experienced user from this site. Or take it from others.

You sound offended by it? Ass Burgers or whatever you called it is not really offensive to me to be honest.

I think most people are somewhere on the spectrum. Why worry about the label? Labels are often ignorant, I wouldnt worry.

The demands of college are obviously different than junior school. Many people dont get a diagnosis until they are teens when the social demands increase.

I dont want to offend you but I did think of this quote when I read your post.................

“If one person tells you you're a horse , they are crazy. If three people tell you you're a horse, There's conspiracy afoot. If ten people tell you you're a horse,it's time to buy a saddle”

― Jack Rosenblum

What strikes me is that the post is all one paragraph. That makes it harder to read imo. Did you consider that? Because not doing is an AS sign.

I dont put much stock in some of the online tests............my AQ is 34 for example and i have ass burgers.

Yes, it is certainly possible to be autistic and not be tested for it, particularly if you are doing well in school.

I did very well in school--and graduated from a very nice college with an honors GPA--but one telling sign was that I had no romantic relationships while I was in school...

i had no clue my troubles could be labeled as autism until i was age 55, when my nephew was diagnosed. i, too, did well in school. my real troubles started when i left the supportive environment of school.

Welcome to WP!

You could explore it as a possibility. It's extremely common, despite what a lot of people think.

Just remember that it's not the end of the world.

Welcome!

You sound like you had a great life.

According to online tests I'm just a half-aspie.

But I am absolutely sure that many people get labelled simply by having the introvert speciality... it would be as absurd as saying that a guy is gay just because he use his sensitive brain more than his rational one... it's just specialization types, really... but anything that differ from average, even geniuses dare looked at as freak... because the average joe doesn't have the skill to understand beyond what he can experience first hand... so they mock and label to feel less insecure.

You have to be more assertive. fake it if you have to. Don't let it get to you. I've been abused, bullied... even by cops and doctors... so...

Just brush it off saying "Nah, I'm just an introvert, a thinker, if you need ideas, I'm your man!"
Or say "I don't have the diagnostic, but so what if I am, I'm still lovable." big smile~

Being, or not being... we don't label people who can't talk about quantum physics as having the dumbass syndrome... so we should stop labelling people lacking social skill as defective too.

Yes we are social creatures, yes it,s probably the first skill that people get... and curing cancer being the last... but if some people are rare breeds that skip the social superficial gossip and go straight to being specialized in the skills required to cure cancer (deep thinking, introspection, observation...) well, maybe we'll stop suffering.

Actually cancer is the cure... the body last attempt to handle more toxins than he can evacuate, so he isolate them in balls... think preservatives preserve? Think again~

Have a great time~ People here don't seem to be bullies... so they did you a favor sending you here. People are fun and interesting, direct, clear... so far...

Enjoy~