care and feeding of your aspie

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Haha took me a sec to figure out that part 1 is a link. At first I thought you were saying "I'm going to write something, what do you think it should be about?" Which is substantially different from "here's my last topic I wrote about about, anyone want to pick the next topic?"

Nice article, by the way. I think you summed it up quite well, and your points are most likely the reason it's hard for us to find good friends; most people see us as too much investment with too little return.

My suggestion for next topic is how to care for and feed your nt! Do the opposite article now! I would tattoo that on my arm for reference, lol.

that is an interesting idea... I fixed the link...

I will toss this to my personal nts and see what they have to say

Special Interests.

Sensory issues and meltdowns

Excellent blog. Maybe discuss the need for bluntness and truthfulness when explaining things (without hurting feelings of course), especially intentions and emotions; also, answering any questions with a logical response (no "because I said so"). I, too, think discussing sensory sensitivities is a good idea.

Since the title is 'caring and feeding...' you could put something in about sensory issues and food. If I say I can't eat Chinese food, it's because the smell of it makes me ill, not because I haven't eaten good Chinese food before.
If you want to be less specific, like Moomingirl said, sensory issues could be a good thing to focus on.

Please post the next part of it when you have written it. I liked part 1.

I loved it! It was a great post. I'll definitely keep reading the other articles.

Just saw this and haven't read the blog entry yet, but I love the name already.

Not that we're helpless, but I like the idea of "your Aspie" like we are a pet that needs a special regimen.

Issue 2 <-- clickable link

Issue 3 <-- Clickable link

These are the next two issues

This really ought to read, "Why Not To Bother Having An Aspie In Your Life."

Really-- if you have to go to all that adjustment and change for another human being, it's just not worth it.

Trust me. Hubby and I have been trying for years. Every year we get more resentful of each other and more unhappy.

If you're a neurotypical, look for relationships with other neurotypicals.

If you're an Aspie, find a few friendships with very tolerant individuals who don't mind spending the occasional Friday night playing Trivial Pursuit or talking about books or painting miniatures you're never going to play with or whatever. Join a club that serves your interest, and be content to take a passive role. Don't try to have close relationships with people-- you are not suited for it, and no matter what they tell themselves in the interest of wanting to see themselves as good guys, they don't want you.

I'm sorry. I know this is harsh. We have the same right to live as anyone else, blah blah blah.

BS. I wish someone had given me this advice when I was a young idealistic Aspie looking to build myself a life. It would have saved a lot of heartache and trouble. Not just for me. Hubby would have a happy, fulfilling life with a normal wife and four beautiful, wonderful f**ked-up kids would not be destined for a life of suffering, struggling, failure, and misery.

But hell no. People just have to spread their f*****g idealism around...

Come spend a week in my house, and then talk about how Aspies are just fine, Aspies and NTs can co-exist, all that other s**t. It's BS.

http://wayoutonthecorner.blogspot.com/2 ... art-4.html

Part 4 <-- clickable link

I absolutely love part 4.

It is a scream