Hello: New here, 1st post. Intersexed+Aspergers

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Hi there. Just came across this site and from the info here, it looks like I will be learning a lot.

It was brought to my attention recently that I might be an Aspie. From the reading I've done on it, and the little online tests I've taken (Are you an Aspie?), seems like I've pegged out the meter on the results. I haven't had a professional diagnoses yet, but I'll se my shrink soon to confirm it.

A little about me:

38 years old, 46XY male, diagnosed a long time ago with Reifensteins Syndrome also known as PAIS (Partial Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome). Reifensteins falls into the category of Intersexed/DSD (Disorders of Sexual Development). When people hear the word "intersexed", it scares them. They have all sorts of thoughts of hermaphrodites with a penis and vagina. That's not the case, especially with me.

As a 46XY male with Reifensteins, my body is resistant to the little bit of testosterone it makes. All babies start off female. It's how much testosterone a baby boys body makes and is 'accepted' and not rejected that will determine how "male" his body will become. So due to that, my body never went through a normal "male puberty". Puberty hit late, in my 20's. Basically, no secondary body hair, undecended testes, abnormal genitalia, and other feminized attributes, etc.

It took 35 years for me to realize that I hated fitting into the stereotypical "Gender is binary male or female" crap and finally be who I am. My mind and body isn't 100% male or female, so why do I need to "live" as 100% male? I've finally accepted that I was different, now the whole Aspergers thing arises.

But after reading how a lot of Aspies have gender issues, this only makes things even more confusing. But it's all good. it proves to me even more that I don't want to be "normal" per societies standards, and that makes my smile gets just a little bit brighter.

In case anyone is wondering, yes, that is me in the avatar in female mode. And damn, I love her. Hell, I lived 2.5 years as her fulltime. But not any more. Being her all the time isn't me I've learned.

To top it off, because of being born intersexed, I was legally allowed to change my gender marker and name.

Life is great

Mikki

Welcome to Wrongplanet Mikki! Im sure you will learn alot from the numerous anectodes on the site. Infact lets start it off with my deep wanting to be a unicorn as a child.

Hi Mikki! You sound like a really neat person I'd love to chat sometime. I know just how you feel about the whole gender-binary hooey that our culture's full of. I mean sure, if your enjoy one of those categories it's great, but it you want to be something else...

I don't know if this is rude to say, but I'll go for it anyway - did you know that House M.D. has an episode about a fashion model with PAIS? I thought it was pretty well-done, all things considered. The person in question was really insecure & had latched onto the whole "feminine wiles" shtick to an unhealthy degree because zie knew at some level zie was different & couldn't handle it. I always enjoy looking at how the media perceives Aspies so I thought maybe you would be interested in looking at how it portrays the intersexed? I dunno. I really hope I didn't offend!

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

They did a good job, I would guess (not knowing you were transgendered) that you were born female.

Thank you folks for the warm welcome.

Thank you Sarah, I was on estrogen for 2.5 years. I recently switched to testosterone shots and I'm hating it. I did it for my wife. But it's changing my face to more male looking in just one month. YUCK ! !! This crap just ended. I LOVE being androgynous looking!

How many people can say they can either put of male or female clothes, walk out the door and pull either gender off 100%? I don't know of anyone - personally.

Yodra, are you on Facebook? I'll have to netflix or hulu to see if I can find that episode of House ! !! Sounds cool ! !!

Thank you TheTackyShirt and AnonymousAnonymous!

Unicorn! Haha cute

Mikki

You said you were married. Did you have to officially change your gender marker to get legally married (to avoid the gay marriage issue)?

I don't have a Facebook account sorry! I guess the forums will have to do *shrug*. At least you're among friends!

PsychoSarah: Actually it's the opposite. My gender marker at birth was male, I changed it and my name to everything female (Mikayla, but I go by Mikki ). So her and I got married as a normal hetero couple. Now we "appear" to be a lesbian couple.

Yodra: It's cool, I don't mind talking here!

Sweet greetings to WPea



From Mick and Peahawk