Hi, new here...confused about possible diagnosis :/

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Hello,
I'm not sure if this is the place for me, but was feeling a bit lost and alone and thought maybe it might be nice to chat with some of you ^_^
I'm not sure if this is the ideal place to post this, but here goes:
I was recently informed that I was an aspie by my psychologist, but I feel quite confused about this. -_- Tests online tell me I have both AS and NT tendencies. I'm known for being social/good with people and have had a wide and diverse group of friends for years. People tell me I'm popular - which seems odd to even say to someone in their mid 20s, seems a little juvenile to me haha. For example, my lecturers at uni had to have a meeting with me where they told me that it was good that I was so social, but that I distracted myself and others. While I get along with a lot of people I tend to need quite a bit of time alone to recharge. People never think of me as a loner though, or seem to notice, unless they live with me. Otherwise I'm quite bubbly. I often disappear for long periods of time because I get stressed or overwhelmed with schoolwork and organisation. I did get bullied in my early teens, which I think partially resulted from social cluelessness and attempting to imitate others but not really knowing how to fit in. Once I began 'being myself' I found a lot of people liked me, though I've always been told that I'm unusual, weird, eccentric and so on - even as a child. I've never been very 'grounded' if that makes any sense, always felt like I was in my own little world. Very imaginative and daydreamy, to the point of it being an impediment to achieving anything in the real world. My psychologist says I have a similar manner as a lot of women with AS, but I wonder if she is just generalising or being too simplistic? Is that really a sign? She said a lot of female aspies were had a reserved yet bubbly manner, quirky dress-sense, etc, and were less likely to have some of the social issues male aspies did. Does anyone know more about this? While I've read a bit online, I would love to hear from anyone about this.

I've always had passing interests and obsessions, particularly when I was younger, but doesn't everybody at some level? I don't see mine as being as involved as they seem to be for many aspies. I just don't feel like I am quite that dedicated or clever, though perhaps these are misconceptions. I have been diagnosed with ADHD (mostly inattentive) and take ritalin for that. I really identify with that diagnosis, though once again, I do not fit the profile of a shy or quiet inattentive adhder. I thought my obsessions might be the result of 'hyperfocus' with the adhd or perhaps OCD. I've had a lot of trouble with anxiety & am highly sensitive to a lot of things, but I'm also quite easygoing. I think I keep the stresses or feelings private, when I can.I hate the affect ADHD has on my obsessions - they change constantly and while people tell me my ideas are great, I can never commit to anything. I see this happening in my personal relationships, where I become obsessed with a love interest and either scare them off or eventually upset them when my obsession fades. The obsession is disruptive to everything else in my life. I've been told this might be slight BDP, but whatever t is, I just want to have a normal life and normal relationships. I either like someone or they don't exist to me. This only concerns romantic relationships though, I have no problems with sustaining friendships.I am seeing a guy at the moment who I like very much, who also may have AS. He spends a lot of time alone and I find I always need to contact him to initiate conversation, though after that, it's ok. He says he likes me, but I find it hard to understand why he wont actively pursue me more? I find it hard to control impulses to contact him, though my therapist has told me I should.

Anyway, TL;DR version is I'm an adhder who has been a little thrown by this suggestion I am slightly AS and BPD. On top of depression, GAD and a history of OCD it makes me feel like I must be INSANE, even though I don't think other people with all these disorders are -_- It just feels odd to have such trouble coping when the going gets tough, yet everyone thinks you are entirely fine albeit a little 'eccentric'. I often feel entirely alone about this, and don't feel I can tell people because they might just think these diagnoses are 'trendy' because I seem quite 'normal'. Yet I find it so difficult to lead a 'normal' life - whatever that means.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

That first paragraph feels a lot like I'm reading an autobiography, actually. What your psychologist said is generally true, but if you believe that it is truly applicable to you, it might be worth the diagnosis.

HI. I'm glad you came here. You might find that some of articles on this website can give you some insight into your issues. They did for me.