Hello from the Netherlands!

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Hello everybody! As you can see I am a Dutch girl and well hmmm... Hi! I'm a 22 year old student, diagnosed with Aspergers only a year ago and I think I am pretty much okay with it. Sometimes not, but most of the time I am. I'm still trying to find my place in the world though (but which 22 year old isn't) and well especially how I can create a world around me where I fit in and feel most happy.

If you've got any questions feel free to ask!

Nice to meet you. Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Well your right about all young people having to find your place in the world. And it keeps getting more crowded! I thought I heard there was a little room left in Greenland. Just kidding, but nice to hear getting diagnosed is not the end of the world for you. Welcome to WP.

Thank you so much! Yeah, I kind of feel like I am living in between two worlds: The autistic world and the "normal, real" world and I am hoping to learn how to balance between those worlds or how to melt the two together. I'm not really sure how to explain it, but this is the best I can.

I was just trying to put some thoughts on that into words, by analogy on a different thread, and likely failed. So I thought I would give it another shot and make it two fails.

I think of it like I am living in a foreign country and having to live among a different culture (NT), and have no other option. I do have access to a few from the same country I am from, but they are widely scattered and most contact is online. They are all in the same boat as me.

Being from the Netherlands you may have traveled in other countries and perhaps spent extended time there. Being on vacation is not a good example, but more what it is like if you have to get employment, make friends, start a relationship, etc.

My guess at this moment is that in practical cases you kind of invent a new version of yourself which is always moving towards understanding, being understood (in their terms) and assimilating into the new culture. A main goal is acceptance. The old original you is still there kind of lives side by side with the new. Personnally I have found being somewhat different can be an advantage in certain situations as much as a disadvantage in others. Its not all bad.