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Hello all,

I'm Clive, 30 from Norwich, UK. I've recently discovered I'm very likely an aspie. A brief history...

I've struggled with social anxiety for most of my life. At high school I was a selective mute. I pretty much spoke to no one other than teachers, and it was completely undiagnosed at the time. After high school I started making progress / building confidence but after missing out on several years of socialising and making friends at school it was a big struggle. A turning point came about five years ago when I discovered that some of the issues I was having are actually a recognised condition called social anxiety disorder. It was a huge comfort to know I wasn't alone. I got some counselling through the NHS, and I found an SA forum and started attending meets...

A few years on and I'm married with a child on the way... And thanks to my wife I have made loads more progress with the SA. There is still some stuff I struggle with, like making phone calls, which I'm possibly even worse at than I was before. Other things are not an issue anymore as I'm no longer having to deal with them on my own. There are times where I relax a bit too much and my SA catches me off guard, but in general I think I've made lots of progress.

However, as awesome as my wife is we also have our fair share of problems. She often gets stressed with me and a lot of it is because of the way I think - this causes some fairly serious problems sometimes. She is also bipolar so it's not an easy ride, but I love her lots. She recently suggested I might have Asperger's syndrome. This has eased things between us a little but there are still things I would like to tackle. I did a few online tests, including the Simon Baron-Cohen one, all of which said I'm very likely an aspie. I saw my GP and have been referred to Asperger East Anglia, although they currently have a ridiculously long waiting list of about a year. Helpful! In the meantime I have been referred to Wellbeing to explore the social anxiety.

There are lots of aspie traits I relate to, though really I'm still very much learning what Aspergers is and how it affects people, and I'm hoping there forums will give me a bit of insight.

Welcome to WP, Clive05. Hope you like it here.

Nice to meet you! Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Hi Clyde, and welcome!

Hey Clive, welcome to WP
Sounds like you're making good progress with AS.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Thanks for the warm welcome, folks...

asspies can get married? dang ur lucky!



you should visit the love and dating forum to give dating advice to the forever aloners. Maybe eventually they will stop complaining.