New here- Could I have aspergers/autism?

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Hey everybody, new here and wanted to say what's up. Also wanted to give a brief story of myself and hear any feedback anyone might have..

So I am 25 now and have always been a quiet kid. However, in environments that I am comfortable with I am extremely outgoing, I am pretty big into snowboarding and longboarding and get along great when I am doing what I love. However, the after parties some of my acquaintances invite me to I am a social trainwreck. It's like I don't even try to socialize and everything so trivial and superficial I just don't care, I feel like people small talk each other to get laid and that's just not me.. So now I avoid parties and have difficulty meeting people, I would rather do my own thing. It makes me kind of sad and unwilling to connect with people because it's almost like I think there's no point in getting close to these people when they will eventually discover I am anti social, which is actually not the case because I am extremely social when I'm in my environment. I am also extremely introspective and research a variety of topics, which many of my extrovert friends don't seem to care about. That's cool and everything, I guess I just wish I was more adaptable so I could cross over to the other side and connect with the majority of people.

Anyway, that's the most recent life example and I could go way back to childhood and teens and pick those years apart.. Thanks in advance for any feedback

Also, my son is diagnosed autistic and made me wonder if it could be genetic

Welcome

It's popular belief that AS is genetic, though I don't believe it's been made official yet.

I understand all too well your predicament. My only advice is that you either learn to adapt to the parties you dislike, or find friends through other means. Considering your interests in more intellectual pursuits, perhaps it would be more beneficial finding others who share your interests, and befriending them. This may require joining a place of study, a club, or whatever, depending on your interests. If you can't find any, you could always initiate one.

Hope that helps.

Welcome ! !
Sounds like you're an introvert with intellectual interests, and that's awesome too.
Having some autistic traits in the personality seems to be common in families with autistic relatives. Maybe you have some of those traits, but you aren't in the spectruum, it's just a type of personality.

Welcome!

For me, just learning to love myself and all my social idiosyncrasies has been a big help. I might wish to be different, and there have been a few things I have been able to do here and there to help a bit. But like everyone else, Aspie or not, I've got a certain hand of cards that life has dealt me and I do best when I accept and embrace it.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Since no-one on WrongPlanet has come forward as an appropriately-trained, experienced and licensed mental-health professional, there would be no-one on WrongPlanet who could say for certain, one way or the other.

I wouldn't trust those on-line "Aspie" quizzes, either.

Welcome