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Hello to everyone who stumbled upon this thread. I am a young girl, a student, a dreamer and a wanderer and I live near the beautiful Baltic sea. I had a happy childhood and adolescence, leading an inquisitive and social life. I am not here to complain, vent or cry, because honestly I have no reason to. However, I would like some more insight into AS, because for the past few years it's been a huge part of my life.

My best friend is one of the most important people in my life, and AS is a huge part of him. Since I can't have one without the other, I figured out early on I better accept all that comes with it and learn as much about it as I can. We met about three years ago in English class. I am not sure how I managed to tame him, but we became friends rather quickly. He was upfront about AS and I didn't think of it much then. We shared some common interests, I found most of his quirks endearing and never before had I reached such level of intellectual conversation with someone my age. I don't have to do any pretending around him, he doesn't mind my anxiety, completely non-judgmental about my hobbies, views and interests and he doesn't put any pressure or expectations on me. In turn I help him get socially adjusted and support him in any way he needs. Sometimes we have a rough time communicating, but we are developing a sort of dynamic which improves every year. I let him in on my birdwatching hobby and he's become very enthusiastic about it. He's made a lifelong Isaac Asimov fan of me. Sometimes he wants to do something out of his comfort zone and I accompany him and help him make sense of things (mostly to only marginal success). By being around him I realized so much about myself. Sometimes my friend frustrates me, sometimes he hurts me unintentionally. At times I'm scared and unsure where we stand. But most of the time I think he's brilliant, kind and caring and I'd like to understand him better. And maybe I shall find some clues on this website with your help guys.

Greetings from America. Welcome to WP.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

The 'communication' being difficult is to be expected.

Its like AS and NT speak two different mental languages. An AS person doing or saying something may mean something very different from what it means if an NT does it. The problem is it can/will lead to taking offense or interpreting rejection but it is just a misunderstanding. It can be sad because sometimes nothing negative was actually in the behavior. They just show things differently.

You might gain some insight via web research of generalized AS behavior. You can also post questions here on WP. The more specific the description of the behavior the better, as people vary quite a bit from the generalized model, especially depending on how AS they are (it comes in a range, not all or nothing). It is important to remember also AS and NT are a lot more alike in basic needs and makeup then different. We are not different species. AS are just altered NTs, and still have their own unique personality overlay as NTs do. So it can be complicated to see what the AS component is in a specific situation, but not impossible.

Thank you for the welcome.

I have already found some useful stuff that changed my outlook in several aspects:)

Hi, welcome

Welcome