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Hi everyone,

My name is Krista. I found out I had Asperger's towards the end of my senior year of high school (I'm a Freshman in college now). It was a huge relief to find out that I wasn't socially stupid, that I actually had a disorder that made it harder for me to react "normally" in social situations. I'm still trying to learn about AS and how to cope with it. I'm hoping that by joining this forum I can meet people like myself and get some new ideas to help cope with social situations and anxiety issues.

My biggest issue with AS is the longing for social interaction and yet dreading social interaction at the same time. It is SO frustrating. I've never made friends with my peers very easily; I tend to make friends with people older than me a lot easier than I do with people my age. Now that I'm in college I'm struggling because I've yet to find anyone to hangout with on a regular basis. My roommate has pretty much decided she doesn't like me so she rarely (if ever) volunteers a single word to me. I have to initiate every "verbal exchange" (you can't really call them conversations), and I usually get the shortest most generic answer from her. Sometimes I don't mind, must mostly I just feel lonely because I don't have anyone I can just chat with about anything.

That's another issue I have, I LOVE to talk, however the things I have to say are generally not that interesting to the people I'm talking to so after a minute or two I start to realize that they aren't listening to me and the crushes me. I know they don't mean anything personal by it but it hurts me badly, partly I feel that I have failed in yet another social situation and partly I'm upset because I think what I'm saying is important and they don't. It's usually things like that, which have made me avoid social interaction with new groups of people. I also have very little or no interest in the things that are popular with my peers, so that leaves very little for me to relate to.

Anyway, now that I've told you my life's story I would LOVE to hear from other AS people or anyone else who wants to say hi!

Last edited by KRIZDA88 on 12 Feb 2007, 4:21 pm, edited 2 times in total.

welcome to WP. Word of advice, a lot of the people here dont like run-on paragraphs. Dont be afraid to press enter after 2 or 3 sentences. Its a lot easier to read. Otherwise, just be yourself and everything will go from there.

Sorry about the long paragraph I got on role

Hopefuly it's better now

Krista,

I am new here too! I just found out 3 weeks ago that I have AS. It's kind of frightening yet somewhat of a relief as well. I looking forward to chatting with others here about life with AS.

Paul

Hi Krista!

Yeah, I know how that one goes. Catch-22, in a new flavor.

You know, if I've had a buck for every time I've just given up and walked away from a conversation because every time I opened my mouth, someone else just steamrolled over me without even noticing I was speaking ...
(and usually, no-one even notices right away that I've left.)

first off, welcome to wrongplanet! i am squier (as you can tell, but my real name is Quinn) i'm glad to hear you are taking your diagnosis well! when i got diagnosed in 5th grade (i'm now in 7th) i got really upset, it took me around a month to accept it. your roomate disliking you sounds like something mentioned about asperger's in wikipedia, that aspies are usually not accepting in communities (that won't be a problem here) as easily and tend to get picked on alot. i talk alot too, i don't usually get ignored like you mentioned (but i do talk about things that don't matter), but i will get off subject, like i get so into my thoughts during a conversation, that if my mind wanders ( my dad's joke is if your mind wanders, follow it!! !!) i will act like they are following what's in my head, so we will be talking about yesterdays math homework, and all of a sudden, I'll mention that mythbusters, my favorite show, is on tonight. what gets me really upset is when how some of my teachers talk to me like the way they talk to ali, and jerry, 2 kids in my school with down's syndrome (my parents always schedule a meeting with all of my teachers at the beginning of the school year to talk about how to approach my asperger's syndrome in a positive manner, they usually don't listen). you say you want to have social interaction, but you don't want to have to deal with things like social cues? wrongplanet is kind of a releif for that, because the way things are conveyed, there are no social cues to worry about, if you are worried people won't read something as a joke, i always put a [joke] or a [sarcasm] in the front of the joke, and a [/joke] or [/sarcasm] at the end....
real quick, lots of people here use "asperger jargon" so things may get hard to understand
aspie means someone with asperger's
neurotypical or NT is reffering to someone without asperger's
autie is a term used by the people who think asperger's isn't autism, it means someone with autism
there is another one i cant recall that means someone who wants to cure AS. since some of the people REALLY REALLY(*100) hate the idea of being cured, and some even go as far as to hate people looking for a cure, i would prefere not to be cured, but i know some people do, and with people with kids with low functioning autism, seem desperate for one...
again welcome to wrongplanet, and i hope you enjoy it!

Welcome to WP!

Tim

Nice intro, and sounds very familiar. Hang in there, and hope you find what you seek here.

Welcome, Krista!

I know exactly how it feels to long social interaction.. I try so hard to have decent conversations, but that rarely happens. I spent 1.5 yrs in University and had to quit because of a severe lack of even trying to socialise. Needless to say, it was driving me crazy. Most of my friends are probably 5-10 years older as I am.

Cheers!

welcome. i look forward to reading your posts and seeing more of you around !

Welcome to the WP tribe. you are among friends here, glad you made it. We are all exactly the same as each other, but with many differences.

I'm new too, so I guess hi and all that! Nice to read your life story, and I think this has been said, but I know just how you feel.

Welcome to WP!

Question:

How many of you start singing "Getting to know you" from The King and I when they read the title of this forum? .... Just me? ...that's what I thought

Welcome to WP!! !

I'm also a college student. (I'm in my 5th year of college.) I understand what you are going through because I had the same thing happen with my roommate this fall. (she moved out so i have single room now!!) So if you need someone to talk to about college, i'm more then willing to chat with you. See you around the site!

Welcome to Wrong Planet!
I hope you like it here!

Hello, and welcome!