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All right all right, I'll start my own newbie "Getting to know each other" thread.

Hello.
Love the discussions on the worth of saying "hello" every day when you get to work.

So Tolkien and Arda might qualify as one of my "special interests;" I started reading his works when I was 8 and by the time I was 9 3/4 I was telling the whole Lord of the Rings story to a group of girls on our way to summer camp. Hence the title of my thread.

If you really are an ardalambion expert, please forgive the screen-name I cobbled together from word parts in the Silmarillion when I was fourteen. Song of Luthien or the Nightengale's song, you could call it. I know now that it is syntactically incorrect. :blush:

See my post in the Questions About You stickie for all my person data.

I've noticed my local libraries have loads of books for explaining ASD/Aspies to NeuroTypicals, but very few books for Aspies to get advice on how to navigate the NeuroTypical world. Can anyone tell me where to find a book that will explain, for example, how to read my NT, slightly "macho," hide-your-feelings husband's non-verbal cues? Because we read eachother wrong all the time, and I'm really tired of the misunderstandings leading to ugly tantrums on his part and total childish meltdowns on mine.

I think I'm developing anxiety disorders on top of whatever ASD I might or might not have. I tense up, wondering what I'm going to say or do that will be read as disrespectful, selfish, defiant or otherwise horrible. I also need to know how to explain to people that what they see in my facial expression is often not what they think it is, because it probably would mean something else on an NT face. But on my face, it's either a much milder form of whatever they think I'm feeling (e.g. mild startlement, not abject terror) or something quite different (e.g., authority figures see rebellion when I'm feeling contrition and humility and trying to show outwardly that I am submitting to their authority and listening to their reprimands and directives).

In other words help! I'm drowning out here in the social pitfalls of the NT world of relationships!

So roughly translated that is: Ellen sat on the lit omlet?

A Tolkien fan myself. Been thru LOTR, SIL, Hobbit and COH maybe 20 times. Mostly by listening during a lengthy injury recovery. Wonderful convalescent material.

Need to focus on that NT/AS disconnect. Its never too late, you both just have to make a clean new commitment to sorting things out once and for all. My wife (NT) and I (AS) grappled with that beast for a long time. Finally got it right and things are much much better.

lol, no. [*Answers rhetorical question*]The translation is "a star shines on the hour of our meeting[*/answer rhetorical question]





Thank you; I will take this as encouragement. My husband is still waffling between agreeing that I probably am HFA, and insisting that I'm just using it as a convenient excuse for bad behavior because after all I haven't been officially diagnosed.

Thanks for noticing me

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Thanks!