Hi, please hang in there with your son and don't let others' reactions to him drag you down. I'm an aspie female, just diagnosed recently at age 41. My undiagnosed aspie mom left the home when I was 2, and thankfully we stayed close. But I was raised by my clueless dad and grandmother, whom I got into countless embarrassing predicaments with other kids' moms due to my meltdowns, biting, hair pulling, etc. We aspies usually just can't "play well with others," at least not until we are older. On a positive note, it sounds like he really may be fixated with building things, if he bit a kid over his messing with his bricks! The best thing for parents of aspies to do is to encourage their child's intellectual passions and fixations. As time passes and they begin to master one or two particular talents or skills, they will gain respect from peers, teachers, other adults, etc. and the bullying will probably cease. I really think that's a key piece of the puzzle of growing up aspie...following your passions and mastering them. That gives an aspie a feeling of self-respect and accomplishment, and helps make up for the fact that we are always somewhat on the outside looking in on everyone else (and not a bad position, I might add)! Good luck to all of you!!
03 Mar 2007, 9:36 am
