Hello there - i have some questions and need guidance

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I was just officially diagnosed with Asperger's, I will be recieving my first government sponsored aid. My story growing up was that I never had ANY friends, I was always being picked on and ostracized. I was smarter than most of the kids, and tried to use this to show them up, and this usually just angered them more. I realize now that I couldn't understand what they might have tried communicating to me non-verbally and vice-versa. Anyway, I caught my first taste of acceptance through alcohol and marijuana smoking, which was fun, but didn't last. I'm not gonna get into details about the hell I was in and caused with my drug use. Anyway, if the drugs did anything, it gave me the guts to open up and I started talking more in class, and left High School respected. However, I enjoyed geeky hobbies that the drug using kids didn't, so when I wasn't high, I'd been alone in my room at my computer like I hear a lot of Asperger's kids do.

Eventually, I started getting in trouble with the drugs cause I was crazy with them, so I managed to stop using heavily while getting through Community College, but when I went away to live on campus at a four-year school was when things started to go bad. I wanted to experiment with the opposite sex, something I hadn't done yet, and it got me in trouble. I had managed to make a couple of friends on campus, but lost them all when I had troubles with this girl who was very nice and sweet to me at first, until my Asperger's and unstable emotions started coming out and freaked her out. The result was, the first club I had gotten envolved with on campus, the Anime Club, massively rejected me because of this girl. At least that's my interpretation, I never really understood why people stopped talking to or looking at me. I feel like I showed all of them by having a real, although short, romantic experience for the first time at that school as well (and I think that girl had something on the autism spectrum too, but she wasn't getting help or had even heard of it)

Anyway, my grades went bad because of this and I broke down and came home to live with my Dad. He's helping me get help from the state to get me a job. I still go to school, just at Community College. Its very hard to get over what happened at college, but I'm learning to live with it. I was so desperate for human contact when I first got back from school, that it brought me to some Narcotics Anonymous meetings. I came to realize (based on some of the things I did in the past) that I'm also a drug addict. So isn't that great, I'm an intellectuel drug addict with Asperger's who's into geeky hobbies, there is absolutely nowhere I fit in. The meetings are good, but its hard to relate to some of the kids there (who're more into sports and music instead of video games and anime). I'm gonna try to get involved with my new school's anime club, but those kids are a bit immature for me, and don't get the whole Asperger's thing. I've been catching bad vibes from some of the kids there cause I can't help looking at the girls sometimes. Anyway, I'm looking for someone who can relate to my story (if that's possible) or some advice and guidance. That's all I got for now, peace.

Wow what a story dude, sorry to hear all that, but things will get better. Welcome to WP! Hope you enjoy it here, I do.

Hi, I can relate...glad you found wp and am sure you will soon settle down here and not be so alone.

I am lord Thoth and I welcome you to my lands.

You do not mention a Major, am I supposed to guess from your body language?

You are calling people immature, cute.

Everyone joins clubs for the girls, not the cookies. You are all of several years older, and have been to a university out of town. You slick babe magnet you. Stick to anime, the stuff the girls like, start the conversion, let them take over, lay back, a soft serve where you lob a shot into their court, just steer the conversation around to the girls now and then, there is lots of non-club time later.

When going to see a horse bring a carrot. Horses will think you are wise, might offer to take you for a ride. Just because a horse gives you a ride, you do not own it. Think carrot!

When I was a teenager I smoked pot and had problems understanding girls. Duh, were there some pimples involved too? Did the pimples go away, and your voice change? Move on. Let it die in shame like all teen years do.

Your value to yourself and others is near zero, you are a student. No one fits in in the adult world, that is why they have jobs. It is not a club. It is sports gone wrong played by bench warmers. Geeks with MCSE get well paid, twice what others make, Cisco Networks is sexey, money is sexey.

There is no money in Philosophy and politics, A+, MCSE pay. For the price of a Barbie Corvette, in Barbie color, automatic, smallest engine, way over insured for any girl driver, you will always have a girl friend. Dont take it personal, it is not, just business. Take it once a month for oil change, wash, wax, detail, rim polish. Everyone likes a soft leather interior.

Suddenly you will be a social leader, even beyond Anime Club. Sell your soul, get a job. There are night shift shots where you can do homework and get paid. Put the money in the bank, let it pile up, study IT, it pays, you have no life, you are a student, nothing is lost.

Money and sex are the best drugs. Direct your education toward skills that pay, A+, MCSE, Cisco, and transferrable credits, prepare to return to the university, for a degree. As an upperclass man, with a vette, a bank account, a job in IT, you might spend a few years getting the last 15 credits to graduate.

Being too busy for friends is better than not having any. When a girl says you should get together, pull out the PDA, suggest a date a week or ten days in the future. It is very sexey, she has a limited option to score.

You will not change, but the world's perception of you will.

That was, interesting... I'm too... lazy though. Staring at girls make you creepy, people are territorial, especially GEEKS considering they talk to no girls outside the Anime Club, but considering I have my backup support group now, there's no reason not to give it another try.

Oh yeah, and it wasn't just smoking a little pot, I'm not gonna get into details with that though.