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Hi, I am new here.
Just looking to talk to people who don't disregard me as a person for being "quirky"

Does anybody else have to count everything?
Hate loud music?
Have no idea what people mean when they say you're rude and don't care?
Anybody else spend their holidays alone?

Just asking

Hey sepikmari welcome.

It sounds like you came to the right place. We have many members who can relate to your questions. I myself don't like loud music or noises and spend my holidays alone.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Well, I guess the answer is no - nobody who has read my "hi, I'm new" has replied to having any of the same feelings as I do.
Ooops, I was hoping to get some support on here. (?)
Am I really the only one?

First of all welcome to wrong planet (I hope I'm not on the wrong planet again...it's always tricky with that name...)

To answer your question I'd say that we all experience what you have to varying degrees (because everyone is different) I know that I use to be called rude and insensitive a lot; however I noticed that playing social games (like world of warcraft, or aqw or any other mmo with an emphasis on chat and not gameplay) tends to help in figuring out which words are rude or not, and that watching (Staaaaare) people helped me build the body language I needed to interact with others...of course it didn't happen overnight and it was hard at first but eventually I was able to get along with most people I encountered.

Oh and my apologies if I went a bit too in-depth in my answer...I'm a bit passionate about social interaction.

Welcome sepikmari! You will find quite a number of us on here who relate to one or more of your questions.

Check out the General Autism Discussion forum because lots of members don't visit the Getting to Know each other thread.

But I can relate to quite a lot. I often spend holidays on my own and have a tendency to recite words or statistics to myself to help me sleep: obsessed with words in particular! And dislike very loud music, although I did attend night clubs some good many years ago more out of loneliness than any other reason. Wouldn't go there again.

Have from time to time bean accused of rudeness.

Hi, welcome!
I can as several other people here relate to many things you are saying.
Especially spending holidays alone. and to not understand why people think I am rude.
The latter has given me alot of uncomfortable situations and abit of anxiety towards social situations, as I percieved myself as a pure and good child, and was hurt when people saw me as mean, or acting in disregard for others.
On my part I do not hate loud music as long as it is pleasant sounds. I like to listen to music in stressfull situations, as it help me to focus on something else than the stress, but I hate sounds like fireworks and baloon popping, and it made me scared when I was a child. I had to work alot to cope with that, especially because of newyears eve and birthdays. One thing I struggle with this day is some people's voices , it penetrates my mind and I cannot focus anywhere else as it takes too much attention, not a pleasant form of attention. It annoys me, and tires me and I often have to pull back and take a break. But I am working on that!
I do not have to count everything, but instead I have to analyze the shapes or structures of what I percieve.(P.ex shapes of buildings and trees if I am sitting in a car looking out the window).
I don't think many would describe you as quirky on this forums, but rather as honest or direct, which atleast I see as a positive trait, since I am better able to understand then. I don't feel safe when I am in a situation I don't understand how to act. Therefore NT's are scary and stressfull, since they want you to act in a way that doesn't make sense , and in addition they tend to try to punish you for not acting the way they think is the most suited.
I also have to apologize for the depth of my reply, but this is how I function, as I like to express myself to a great detail so there is lesser room for misunderstanding!

Yes, I can relate. I am very frustrated that people seem to go out of their way to belittle and ostracize me.

Thanks everyone for your replies. None are too in depth - I tend to go on about things too.

About the music thing, I have to have my house totally silent when I get home from work until I go to bed. Then I have a white noise machine that I put on maximum so I can concentrate on a steady sound to try to get my mind to stop thinking long enough to fall asleep.

Have been delving into binaural beats. Very interesting, still trying to see if it will do anything (good). I'm not sure how healthy manipulating brainwaves can be. Also lucid dreaming, but can't manage doing that on my own, only the two or three times it's happened on its own. I think it would be a good learning experience to have a lucid dream and control the interpersonal, social relationships with people in the dreams. That what some people are trying to achieve with lucid dreaming. TED Talk has a very interesting segment on that. Hope you're familiar with TED talks - some of the are really great.