hi i am an adult woman, age mid 30-s, wife and mother of 2 young girls. i recently came to the realization that i think i have aspergers after years of wondering way i am the way i am, have no friends, etc. i came across this site a few days ago because lately i have realized that i do not dress or look feminine and have never worn makeup or fussed with my hair much. in fact lately i keep cutting it shorter and shorter (i do this myself because i get too anxious about making appointments and going to a stylist) so i am sure it looks like crap but i don't care. i have been mistaken for a lesbian in the past and idk, that was where my head was at and i came across a discussion here about something like that. i have no problem being mistaken for a lesbian even though i am married to a man. i am sure that is how i appear. anyway i have been researching aspergers in women on the Internets ever since and am trying to work up the courage to discuss it with my mental health provider when i see her next week, though i don't know what good it will do or change anything. would just be nice to feel validated. the things about aspergers i've read that resonate the most with me is imitating other people and of course the not being girly thing. i could never figure out why i was always wanting to copy and imitate people instead of just being myself, whoever that is lol. it is nice to feel like maybe there is some kind of answer. thanks for reading.