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cherry2000
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26 Oct 2015, 8:17 pm

I'm an NT woman. this is a term i recently learned to describe myself to "you guys" being the people who I will be seeking knowledge and support from. I recently discovered the man I have lived with is Undx'd AS for the last 10 years. The thing that shone the light upon this was mild involvement with another of the same. i don't intend to stay involved with either of them. I won't bash or complain its just a whole lot of overwhelming pain, especially when you have been taking the blame for your reaction to basically what amounts to the treatment/behavior by a sociopath.



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26 Oct 2015, 8:24 pm

Hi cherry2000.

cherry2000 wrote:
what amounts to the treatment/behavior by a sociopath.

Would you mind explaining this in a little more detail? :?



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26 Oct 2015, 9:08 pm

cherry2000 wrote:
I'm an NT woman. this is a term i recently learned to describe myself to "you guys" being the people who I will be seeking knowledge and support from. I recently discovered the man I have lived with is Undx'd AS for the last 10 years. The thing that shone the light upon this was mild involvement with another of the same. i don't intend to stay involved with either of them. I won't bash or complain its just a whole lot of overwhelming pain, especially when you have been taking the blame for your reaction to basically what amounts to the treatment/behavior by a sociopath.


So does your partner know he has autism?

Because 10 years is a long time to invest in a relationship. Although I have to admit "we" don't always make the best partners. But if your partner is interested in addressing these issue, it might be something to consider.



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26 Oct 2015, 9:15 pm

OP, I am not a sociopath. I'm a seriously empathetic Aspie. If you're just here to vent your frustration on us in place of your significant other for the purpose of peacekeeping, good luck. You'll need it, especially once you've admitted to yourself that you were free to walk out the door any day and any time.



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27 Oct 2015, 2:57 am

Hey cherry2000 welcome. :sunny:


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27 Oct 2015, 5:00 am

Are you saying he's a sociopath or are you saying he's Asperger's? The two aren't even related, let alone the same. How did you even come to the conclusion he has AS/is a sociopath?



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27 Oct 2015, 6:50 am

iliketrees wrote:
Are you saying he's a sociopath or are you saying he's Asperger's? The two aren't even related, let alone the same. How did you even come to the conclusion he has AS/is a sociopath?


Right. The two are opposite actually.

Sociopaths understand but don't feel. People with ASD feel, but don't understand.


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27 Oct 2015, 2:46 pm

I think this is a troll post. It's the only post the user has made since joining.



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27 Oct 2015, 2:49 pm

In fairness they joined yesterday. :shrug:



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27 Oct 2015, 3:00 pm

iliketrees wrote:
In fairness they joined yesterday. :shrug:


Still, I get the impression it's a troll from one of those "aspie partners" websites where women go to complain about the narcissists that they married that they have mistaken for autistic men because they are ignorant and can't tell the difference between someone who is socially awkward and someone who doesn't give a s**t about their feelings and wants to abuse them.



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27 Oct 2015, 3:05 pm

The very first thing an NT needs to do when they find out someone they know is on the spectrum is to forget everything they thought they knew about autism. Nearly all movies, TV, and the media in show people on the spectrum in very negative and stereotypical ways. If if you can't erase all the brainwashing and realize that if you've seen one autistic person, you have NOT seen them all, then no one can help you.



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30 Oct 2015, 5:02 pm

Rudin wrote:
Sociopaths understand but don't feel. People with ASD feel, but don't understand.


Well, I think it's a bit unfair to stereotype all sociopaths as cold unfeeling criminal masterminds...

But you're right that PD (personality disorders) and ASD have nothing in common. They're not even closely related; they affect totally different areas of the brain.