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I got diagnosed on wednesday, still haven't told anyone yet!
I'm a male person in my 40's, have always been in my own world and starting noticing that descriptions of asperger's seemed to describe my own feelings and experiences about 10 years ago. But I felt foolish about trying to get a diagnosis, and anyway, what use would it be.
Since then I've moved to another country, and after deciding to go for it finally managed to get a diagnosis, and hopefully I'll be able to get some help as a result. I wish I'd done it years ago, because it could have changed my life for the better if I'd had some support earlier on.
Now I'm at the "what next" stage which I presume everyone in the same situation goes through, i.e. what kind of help to get and where to get it, which friends or colleagues to tell etc.
I went to a self-help group today but I was too shy to speak to anyone, it took me 3 attempts before I could walk through the door without my legs seizing up with fear!
Hi!

Hey designpatterns welcome.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Welcome, I was diagnosed late myself

@Alexanderplatz and how was it telling other people, did you encounter any skeptisism?

As I spent half an hour outside the self-help group meeting room trying to control my breathing, I actually started to go into denial mode... maybe I misunderstood what the psychologist said, maybe I just made the whole thing up, I couldn't possibly be "one of them"... I was briefly a self-skeptik
It made it all a bit real to be in a room full of people with similar problems, and that's affected me. When I was told the diagnoisis I felt no reaction at all, it was like being told the sky is blue.
Although I didn't take part in the group discussion, they were talking about things very familiar to me, such as how stressful public transport is, and noise and light sensitivity. Up until now I've been totally alone in dealing with my feelings, which every time I told someone they would look at me as if I came from mars. So it doesn't have to be like that anymore. Maybe next time I'll open my mouth.