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Howdy! I'm a 49 year old male, unmarried, no kids, living in Central Arizona. I'm undiagnosed (and wondering why being formally diagnosed is such a big deal anyway), I have a lot of the signs and symptoms (poor social interaction due to not being able to detect or process non-verbal and sometimes verbal cues, repetitive behaviors, etc.) and have had for as long as I can remember. I own my own software company. I write software. I see code in my head before I even touch a keyboard.

I also work with animals, doing healing and energy work. Horses are my current passion, I have 4, and I also have the world's most beautiful short-haired tabby cat

I hike, mountain bike, trail ride my horses, and backpack for relaxation. I can't quite understand why it's so easy for me to detect and process non-verbal cues from horses but not from people. I guess it's because horses aren't subtle - you know right away if they like you or don't, or if you do something the like or don't like. They also don't smile to your face and talk about you behind your back, or stand there and listen to you, then tell other people that you drive them crazy. Why can't people be more direct? Why is it that I'm always the one who has to change?

Anyway, I just joined and wanted to say hi

Welcome to WP!

Tim

HI I'm new too.

Is not being formally diagnosed a big deal? Will we be looked at differently if not formally diagnosed? Aren't the hardships that we have still the same?

A lot of us dinos (I am 53) don't care much about official dx. We found the description, We fit it. What else must be done?

Welcome to our tribe. I think you will like it here.

Animals are cool! I talk successfully to wild ones. Elk, deer, bunnies, 'yotes all listen.

I'm brand new here too!

I wouldn't think you'd have to be officially diagnosed unless you'd like to be perhaps to receive specific treatment or help. Otherwise, if you're ok with you and your life as is then it shouldn't matter. I just discovered Asperger's the other day and have not yet been diagnosed officially (though made an appt) but know I have it -there are no doubts. It was an amazing discovery for me and explains alot -not only about me but about many family members as well (especially my bro and one uncle in particular). Just the discovery itself gives me so much more understanding about myself and comfort knowing there are so many others out there just like me! Upon discovering the syndrome and (obsessively) researching it, I couldn't believe it. I thought they were describing me personally to a "T" (as they say). I just thought I was a weirdo, a one of a kind, some kind of human anomoly.. an alien!

At my last job not too long before I left, I (embarassingly) went to the manager upset that I'd been there five years but still made no friends no matter how hard I tried or how many different ways I tried, how everyone thought I was so weird and odd, how I thought I was a nice and good person, how I tried to make conversation and be a part of things socially only to continually confirm my own weirdness or unintentionally upset someone. I talked of how I just didn't get the social thing (or human beings in general) at all!
Her response? "Yeah -you're, uh, different." I'm not sure what I was expecting, but..........

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I wish people were much more direct as well!! That's where people burn me the most -when they are nice to me...cuz I always assume if someone's being nice then they ARE nice and keep figuring out the hard way. And it sometimes takes me forever to figure it all out! I constantly make the mistake of taking everything said at face value but... and on the opposite end of the coin feel many times people read more into what I'm saying or assume I meant something other than what I said and will even sometimes get offended based on those assumptions (I suppose because that's seems to be the norm for most others) when I always mean what I say and am very honest. I get especially upset at being accused of being dishonest and the awkwardness and not holding eye contact definately do not help!! Very frustrating!! !!

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Welcome to WP.

About the DX, I think that it is just a peice of mind but from what I gather most of us are pretty positive we have it even if some stuffy overpaid person in a suit with a BMW doesn't hand us a paper saying so.

I love horses. I used to ride as a child but my mom took me out. I've always wanted to start again. I remember I that I used to form bonds with some of the horses. (Not to mention my legs looked great.)

Hi and welcome
Nice intro, sure you will get comfy in the dino aspie cafe among other areas here.

Welcome n7ekg,

I make it official, the horses told me you are one of us. I never got the human thing, so this group must be part horse.

When I think of the past, it is the animals I remember.

Welcome to WP, hope you like it as much as we do

I think an official diagnosis only serves the NT world really, I mean if you know you have AS then getting a formal DX is only really useful if you need to access help of some kind I suppose.

The energy work sounds interesting.