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Ok so am new here and unsure of what to expect. Although its been suspected for many year, I only got my diagnosis of aspergers syndrome on 9.12.2015, at the age of 32. Am not really sure how I feel about it. I think am getting used to the idea, that no- one can fix me or make it go away. But since I have no friends or family members to talk to me about it, I must admit its a confusing time. I don't really go out, although i go to talk to the trees and manage the library. All i seem to do, is just sit in my room and read my books. Its lonely. I do have 2 brothers and a sister. But I think they just get fed up with me rambling on about things, I think are fascinating. They call me stupid as I don't get jokes or sarcasm. They call me crazy, when I get upset over things, they find unimportant. I don't really sleep much, so my mood is low at the moment. I want too stop being afraid, I want too have more of a life than I have right now. Think I just need reasurring and a little support or advice to were I go from here. Thanks

Hey rileyjack6614 welcome.

I just got diagnosed this week and am still trying to figure it out too. There really aren't any easy answers, and of course everyone is different. I struggle with loneliness and anxiety too. I also got diagnosed with social anxiety disorder, and let me tell you, combining social anxiety with loneliness can be really tough.

I hope you enjoy your time here as much as I have.

rileyjack6614
I hope we can help you. If nothing else this can be a place to vent or ask for advice or encouragement. I have found WP very helpful.

I find that a lack of sleep makes me very emotionally out of whack. Have you always not slept wewll or is that just recent.

I think knowing why you are different is a big step.
Do you have access to therapy. That has helped me to understand myself better.
We certainly will be glad to help you explore your feelings and struggles.

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Welcome!

Welcome!

Hello thank you for all the words of kindness. Not figured out how to work this website yet so it might take a while.

Hi there, its Kenny here. I've tried several times to PM you back, but there's a technical problem and my message couldn't be sent to you. I've added you to my friends list. I'll try again to.message you later.

Kenny

Welcome, rileyjack6614!

I was diagnosed about the same time as you, and I am 36. I am married, which I thought would never happen. No really meaningful relationships until I met my wife at age 28 (not for lack of fumbling attempts). I had to find a person who was very intelligent, so she didn't find my "random facts" inserts in conversation annoying. We dtill butt heads often, but it works, because we don't give up.

I mention my situatoon not to redirect, but rather to offer an exwmple that loneliness needn't be permanent. You haven't found the right life mate for you yet. There is one. Or more likely there are thousands that would fit well with you, the trick is to find one of them. My experience was that an online friend recommended me to her in person friend, and it worked out. So maybe online networking is a good start for you, too. Less intimidating than clubs, anyway.

Also, welcome.

Welcome to the forum!