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Hello,

I've visited this site many times before in the past few years trying to learn more about the journey ahead for my son. But I am just now joining.

My name is Chantal and I am a NT mother of a 7 year old boy on the spectrum a wonderful little boy with his own set of struggles. I remember telling someone that he was on the spectrum once and they asked me if I would give the cure if it was ever found. My immediate answer was no, but later I thought about it. No matter how I looked at it however why would I wand to cure him of being EJ. With out the quirks and things that came along with his autism, there is no way he would be overly literal little guy I love today.

So my husband (whom I truly believe is an Aspie himself) and I continue to just focus on what we can do to help him better navigate this NT world, which we can see for all the flaws it has. Growing up I was taught to conform and be what people expect of you. That is the last thing we want to teach our son. Instead we want to teach him the skills to use his strengths to help push further and make the most of the areas he struggles in. I know in some situations the best/ easiest thing to do is conform but I'm looking forward to also talking to those I've seen who say they won't change who they are just to make NTs lives easier to better help him when that type of decision can make things harder

Hey Chantal welcome.

I am both bald and on the spectrum. And I started to go bald in my early 20's so I know all about "conformity". At first, I tried to hide my baldness just like my autism. I will be 35 next month and I would not want a cure for either one. Yes, I realize there are cures for baldness, but my baldness is like an early warning system. If someone comments or stares at my bald head, I know that person is just another ignorant sheep to be avoided if possible. I have found that a good way to explain autism to people is to use driving as an example. As a person on the spectrum, I drive just like the DMV manual says I should. The average NT seems to "conform" to the bad habits of the other local NT drivers. While I am aware that I need to keep a safe distance from the person ahead of me, the NT behind me is following so close that I can't even see their license plate anymore. Of course, the NT cops do it too. It is in these cases, and many more, that the autistic person that has a gift. The gift of being separate. Separate from society, and therefore, separate from the bad habits that the average NT spreads like a virus. I hope you realize that I took some artistic liberties and embellished some of the facts.This is just my opinion based on life experience. I can only make an educated guess if those around me are on the spectrum or not. However, I am so glad that I will never understand fads, trends, peer pressure or anything else that the world tries to tell me I need to believe.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Welcome! I like your attitude of not wanting to cure your son and accepting him just the way he is.

Hello It seems as if you are doing a good job of helping your son. I wish I had had someone that understood me when I was that age.

Thank you everyone for the warm welcome.