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Hi, I've known of wrongplanet for a while now but never dared to come here before.

I probably am an Aspie, undiagnosed and scared to be now, as life is already complicated enough without a label.

I was medicated, voluntarily, after being vaguely diagnosed "depressed". Years of anxiety and meltdowns. It did lots of bad to me and I have even less trust in people than I already had left.
Autistic is a word I've heard often though.

I have difficulty with relationships, I don't have friends anymore, if I ever had any. I can't really work and now haven't for a while. I'm fine at my place doing my stuff. I also have emotional difficulties although writing and watching people on tv series has helped me learn to know how to put words on how I feel, to some point. I have sensory problems too. And synesthesia.

Now I have a new therapist, after years I accepted to see someone again. He's a psychologist so he doesn't stuff me with pills, no specialist but curious about knowledge and open-minded. He told me once something so little and obvious "you have the right to live", I didn't think it would feel good.

I do group work. Socialize with benevolant people. It helps ut it's hard. I still feel apart.

Well maybe here is the right planet for me.

Hi,
I've only recently found Wrong Planet as well.
From what I know and have discovered about autism from others etc then your experience is very much the norm, so I am sure you have found the right place. Don't be afraid of being an Aspie, more quality self-knowledge can only help you.
Not knowing what you are will only hinder you.
For what it's worth I think that the syndrome weakens a bit as you age but we are what we are, it's a matter of degree.
The world has many reasons to be grateful to Aspies. So many advances in so many fields are down to us. This could be because too many NT's are having conversations about nothing at all while the Aspies, happily chasing our "special interests" are breaking new ground.
Friendships have always been a problem for us as a group, I think that trying to find other people with the same interests as oneself is the best way forward, though I have had only limited success with this myself so far. But then again having just one or two friends is just fine.
Your group work and socializing with benevolent people sounds a great idea, are there any Aspies groups in your area? You sound down and maybe a bit tired but you have already taken important steps forward. Keep up with this, research Aspergers Syndrome and read what other Aspies have to say, I am sure things will improve for you.

I spent almost 20 years being treated for depression and anxiety, was only diagnosed ASD last summer, and every day since has been a learning experience.

I can relate to everything you have described, and the diagnosis was a very positive event for me overall, though I am really struggling to make friends.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Welcome.

Now lies the Earth all Danae to the stars.

Hey Danae welcome.

Welcome! Glad to have you here.

hi, danae. welcome, what sorts of things do you like to do?

First of all thanks to all for the welcome. Seeing that others have (had) similar experiences makes me feel less guilty to "whine", because that's been the feeling a lot.

I love tv series, especially the x files, people always told me I should think about something else. And I like to search on the internet and investigate. Neuroscience/behaviorism/psychology. So I've been more open to science in general for a while. And music, writing.

Hi Danae,

Welcome to WP

Sometimes posting threads with some questions can help you find answers.

I myself am not sure if I am on the spectrum, but 2 of my 6 children are at opposite ends.

I do think I probably am though after doing some of the online tests, and I am waiting for an
appointment in about 6 to 12 months to be tested.

I think it has to be a positive thing to find out one way or another, so we can learn
and grow into the best self that we can be. And hopefully become more happy.

Feel free to message me anytime.

Thank you very much.

I live in a small city, as far as I know there's only one center of ressources on autism, and it's very mostly, at least officially for children. Their criterias for diagnosis are apparently very basic and from what I've been researching for a couple of years, they're biased. Nothing for female adults.

As a kid they thought I might be Asperger's but it was unconclusive because of things such as I could read early or I was quiet but without tantrums.
I went to that center once and I'm not going back there. The info I find about the subject, news, comes from the US really.

I suppose it is harder to diagnose someone in their thirties and after because coping skills and better just like hiding lots of things. I hear it's even worse to diagnose women.

I've suffered enough throughout all that process. I know it's not depression. I had these traits when I was little. And my twenties, out of school and structure, were a pure nightmare. Just being on the street or in the crowd, it physically hurt and I was unbearable I suppose. I understand why some people don't want to stay around me.

It's still difficult now, but I can focus better. Also it's because I know once I'm home I'm alone and can do whatever I need to cope. I don't see how I could live with someone again.
But I don't want to pretend I'm fine in my own home when I feel like imploding.

i share your interests in music and behavioral science.

Hello, welcome to here

Thank you.

I'm glad I finally registered.

Welcome!

Thank you.

I wanted to add that I'm sorry to those who wrote PMs, I can't answer (from today), capcha stuff, but isn't working.

Until I can fix the problem.