How to bring up baby.

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My husband and I are still a long way away from having a baby, but we plan to have two children some day. How do you, as people with AS, raise children? What parts of raising kids challenge you and what are the parts that you may have particular strengths/weaknesses with? Also, if you raise/raised AS children, what was/is this like?

I am most likely AS and my partner is NT. I am very interested in finding as much about this sort of thing as possible so that I can be the best mother to my children when the time does come around, and I feel that I need plenty of research first. Help?

I brought up two kids by myself, they are both NT. We got on really well as I treated them like equal human beings not as a bossy parent (result of AS view of social stucture as opposed to heirachical NT one I think). They had equal vote in family descisions from as soon as they could talk, we would discuss the pros/cons and mostly unanimously agreed but as they got older if I got out voted then tough on me (everyone has to play fair). We had a lot of fun together playing games and going on walking adventures as we had no tv. They seemed to be mature quite early and were more sensible than peers. When my daughter was ten we had some major rows for a year but other than that no real teen problems. My daughter gradually became the `bossy parent`of the house at 15. Neither drink, smoke or do drugs, they are not swayed by peer pressure as they are confident in who they are and what they want to do.

regarding babies. With my first child I tried to do everything everyone said (impossible!). I tried not to picK her up too much as I was told this would `spoil her`. This was a mistake and we didn`t bond very well during the first year. My son I hardly ever put down as I had a hands-free sling and he was much more content and we bonded really well. Best advice is don`t take anyone`s advice - just do what you feel is appropriate and tell everyone to mind their own business.

I have two kids myself.
I dont agree with not taking anyones advice,but choose carefully.
If your instinct says no,then dont follow that advice.
If you feel good about it,give it a try.

You will,however ,get advice from lots of people and alot of it will what is best for your child and that is also what matters.

I've raised five kids, and raising the one with aspergers was by far the easiest. The others found me exasperating or hilarious by turns, but all of them got over it and most of them turned out fine. The one with fetal alchohol effect (I didn't give it to her, her birth mother did) is the one that is giving me fits right now. I much prefer dealing with autism and aspergers. We have logic. The essence of FAE is the disconnect between cause and effect and expressive language being higher than receptive, so you think the FAE is understanding what you say as they agree, but then they go out and do stupid again.
Who do you know who looks like they are doing a good job? You might shadow them for a while.

Oh, I remember when one lady said she found me amazing because I always talked to my kids like they were adults. She also liked how obedient they were.