not even therapy can help

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10 May 2016, 8:31 pm

Good evening

The clerk at the grocery store said that I have nice eyes, and that made my day. But I'm still here, guzzling ice cold beer and making my first post to this forum as a last resort; not even therapy is working for me.

I'm almost 40 but youthful in appearance. I have a successful business, several beautiful children, overwhelming professional success and a track record of failure in my personal life. Divorced, separated from the mother of my children, and managing to keep up a facade to my employees and the world that is close to devastating me.

I was diagnosed with aspergers syndrome 4 years ago and although I've been trying to improve my behavior I've failed completely in my personal relationships. I have no problem attracting normal people since I look fantastic, but connecting is a major problem. I am struggling. I'm in therapy and that's making my suffering worse as the therapist is helping me to maintain a facade so that my business relationships remain strong.

I will participate in this forum in an attempt to distract myself from the loneliness of my inner life, and maybe share experiences with a few of you.

Best,

Dirk

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10 May 2016, 10:22 pm

Hey Dirk welcome. :sunny:

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10 May 2016, 10:30 pm

Welcome man and yeah I hear you on trying to connect with people. I've only been able to some what connect with a few people in my life but I still haven't been able to entirely connect with someone. Use to get me depress in my teen years but now not so much. Keeps me up every once in a while. Though now that I found out about Aspergers I do hope on meeting another aspie and see if I can connect with each other entirely. Hope you find what you're looking for on here.

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11 May 2016, 12:37 am

Hi Dirk, Welcome! Glad to hear you have a successful business going for you. But I know it's hard to wear a "mask" all day around the people you work with. You can be "unmasked" around us.

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11 May 2016, 9:15 am

Thank you for the replies, just being able to share my experience in this forum was helpful.

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11 May 2016, 4:16 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

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11 May 2016, 5:57 pm

Try NOT improving yourself. Just be you. That's what counts. You are blessed in many ways. You've accomplished more than anyone I've known with AS.

You're damned lucky to have what you have.

Just be you. Right now you feel lousy because you're trying to "improve" yourself. Why ? That lady at the store. You should of invited her out for coffee or lunch.

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11 May 2016, 6:25 pm

Welcome! What are your interests?

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