Hello - Newbie NT Wife Married to an Aspie

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Hello - I'm brand new and searching for help. I'm NT married to a man who probably has AS. Not diagnosed (because he refuses, thinks it's ridiculous), but our marriage counselor thinks he probably has it...although he's very high functioning and doesn't fit all the tags (but most).

We are on the brink of divorce (again) and in counseling (again) but are not making much headway. We're trying to save the marriage as we have two small children, but it's looking rather bleak. Any help you can offer would be appreciated.

Thank you.

hi, aren't you aspie too?
is your concelor aspie?
do you really believe your husband is high-funtioning?
are you high-functioning?
Welcome, and enjoy aspie people!

Well, no - I'm not AS and neither is our counselor AS. And yes, my husband is quite high functioning, according to the counselor.

I apologize if in some way I have offended you with my language. I am still learning how to speak about this properly.

My post is sincere. I would like some help from those who are married and can speak from that experience of a relationship between NTs and AS. I've read several books about this subject and I do understand they exist.

Oh, all right
Well, you know your husband is a normal man, although a peculiar one.
Do you believe are there really "normal" people? If I met a normal person someday I will regard it very strange!! !
If you want to know aspie people go to a maths department at a great university, you will enjoy aspie world there. If your husband is really aspie you will feel home there! Meting one wife of them you will be able to know other, most of them aspie too.
(don't tell nobody but aspie people merry aspie people)

HA HA HA HA HA HA.

Welcome to WP!

Tim

oops, post edit here... I was commenting to her thread in the "General" forum entilted: "Looking for NT wives Married to AS "... still feel the same way...

Let's hold my interview right here... I usually don't get my "hair-up"...

The last Journalist I ran into that wanted to write on this subject didn't have a clue, even after deliberations in a few e-mails we exchanged...

And very much The last Person I'd want touting "expert" and trying to heal me! I don't like the "situation" here!

A restrained Welcome! Appreciate that you are trying...

Respectful regards Journalist... Beammeup

(Hmmm, hope I eighty-six’d her with my 86th post!)

Abbr,

Whatis happening that is so bad that you are considering divorce if you do not mind sharing?

Davesaint

You seriously need to lay off the prozac

Hi Closarin!
Man, I've been looking at your photo at left... sorry but you are becoming even uglier each day!! !

In fact the whole world is very fun!

Welcome you too agent!

Lol. I was kidding.

Me too. I don´t know why your previous avatar sugested me you were a woman

I've been doing such a kind of mistake at this site.

What a strange!

Lol, its ok.
Its not me, even though we so kinda look similar to some extent.

Its hard to gauge here, as the stereotypes of men vs woman doesn't hold as strongly.

I don't think anyone can really give you any sound advice without more information.

Just as not all non-aspies are alike so are not all aspies are alike.

All I can say with the information you've given is that you should consider how you solved these issues in the past. Perhaps you will be able to save your marriage how you saved it in the past. Even if its not 100% relivent its a good place to start.

Hi Abbr, you'll get help here - and maybe hope. I'll let Smelena (my daughter) tell her own story. But she has come close to separation quite a few times. A year ago she knew nothing about aspergers- now she has aspies all over the place- 2 sons, husband who has not yet considered the possibility, perhaps m-i-l and almost certainly her mother. As you get to know the people on Wrong Planet I'm sure you will become fascinated with the condition and learn to love the people here.

Don't be afraid to ask questions. You'll get lots of help. And you will learn to look at your husband in a new light. At last Smelena and Ant are a team. I hope you can save your marriage. And you will learn why you are often hurt.