Hello from a 54 year old recently diagnosed Aspie!

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I am a 54 year old man who was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome just one month ago. I was also diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I also suffer from depression.

I am single, never married and live alone. I have a decent job but no social life. I have many friends at work and am actually quite popular. But once I leave work I am almost totally alone.

I am currently going through counseling for several different issues.

My goals are to learn how to best live with my condition, establish a few friendships outside of work and date some women.

I have joined this forum in the hopes of learning from others living with similar issues.

Louis

Must be a breath of fresh to learn of your diagnosis at 54, LouisK. Welcome to Wrongplanet!

Hey Louis welcome. I was diagnosed Aspie late in life myself.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

I can relate about feeling alone in the world. Even though I live with my family, I have no choice but to keep my current relationship with my NT girlfriend a secret from my family. My family believes that my AS is a just reason to prevent me from having a social life.

Thanks for your response. How did you meet your girlfriend?

Yes it was a great relief. I wish my parents were alive. They would be so happy. They always tried to help me. We had no idea what my problem was. Now I know. At 54 I feel like I have missed out on a lot of things in life.

We actually met when we were in grade school together but a few years back, we reconnected when we were in college. In 2013 however, I had to break face-to-face contact with her because family issues got in the way. We still keep in touch even to this day through social media. Also, whenever the thought of introducing her to my family comes up, I fear that my family will make assumptions about her and that's something I want to avoid.

I am sorry to hear that. I hope that it will somehow work out for you.

Welcome aboard, Try not to feel bad about being alone. After a stressful day, having time to recharge and decompress is necessary. Think of it as preventive maintenance. Too much social pressure can lead to bigger problems. Take things slowly and figure out your limits.