hi this is my first post here and I'm hoping for your advice. My family have thought I'm aspergers for a long time, I've often denied it but I agreed to go and get assessed soon. Is it possible that your aspergers can flare in adulthood? I had late speech development when I was younger and when I was 20 I seemed to have lost my personality and became very monotone and lost my zest for life. I've also pretty much lost my social skills and find it hard making friends and actually making the effort to socialise. Dating girls seems the hardest to me because when I try online dating websites I always back out last minute. I don't know why because I don't get particularly nervous. I do get nervous in some situations and definitely lack confidence and self esteem