Hello from Northern Ohio USA

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I've sort of browsed this page for awhile but I figured it was time to register. As for me, I am 37 years old and I live in Northern Ohio. I am have Asperger's syndrome but am undiagnosed, growing up I had the ADD label slapped on me but I always knew that wasn't right. No one really knew what to make of me. I couldn't do sports and school work came hard for me. I was always the one excluded from the group, still am a lot of times. Its odd, either people really like me or they want me shot. There's very little middle ground. I have a few acquaintances but no real friends to speak of. I am single, live alone(wouldn't have it any other way). The so called friends I used to have just took advantage or were only there for me when there plans fell through with the others. So its better there gone.

I'll end it there but look forward to hanging out here.

Welcome!

Hi Brian

Welcome to WP!

Yeah, a lot of us have had similar situations with friends. When you're on the spectrum, it's especially hard to find people whose wavelength resonates with your own. I was lucky and found a few quirky non-spectrum gals at a job in my late teens.

Unfortunately, I moved away to complete my bachelor degrees. It's been tough finding new friends since then. Again I was lucky because I lived in San Francisco with all the best fun loving crazies, but it took me almost 10 years to finally start feeling a part of a community again, and then I ended up moving to eastern Kansas a year ago. If you're originally from the Midwest, I can only imagine how much harder it was to meet compatible people.

In the year I've been out here, the only few crazies I've met have all been the bad kind, and the other people that I've interacted with have very superficially friendly to me right up until a bit of my Aspies sneaks out. Then suddenly they plaster on a super wide-eyed exaggerated smile and start speaking to me like I'm a Jr Rainman... I haven't had much luck to be honest.

That said, are there any MeetUps in your area? I just committed to putting myself back out there and lucked across a single not completely defunct ASD MeetUp group about an hour away from me. While I'd rather find some quirky gals again, if I can even find a compatible Aspie friend to commiserate with in person, I'd call it a success

Just remember, if you do reach out, you got to give to receive. Either way, welcome to our community!

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Thanks everyone. I've never been to KS but I imagine its similar to ohio culture wise. The Midwest isn't exactly the most open minded place, its really all I know as I've never lived anywhere else. Honestly, I have done too much traveling either other then going down south and to northern MI.

I don't get out much, during the week its work and I stay in on the weekend. I've given up on people basically, yeah I get treated by some co workers and even a couple of extended family members like I am slow or ret*d. Hate it.

It annoys me when people do this to me too. Just because I am socially challenged doesn't mean I am intellectually challenged.