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Just wanted to say Hi, signed up here a while ago after getting diagnosed, aged 27 or so. My name is Charlie.

Focused on depression itself for so long, it wasn't until recently when it finally clicked that the Asperger's explained a lot more than anything else I've looked into.

I've never had a consistent friend since I transitioned to a mostly thoughtless child to early elementary school. No best friends either. I didn't really even think of trying to make a friend too much for a while, as odd as that may sound. It wasn't until my mid 20's when I moved to Atlanta for a job and thought it would be a good thing to do.

Tried the whole normal schtick, reading up on how to make friends, tips on dealing with social anxiety, whole nine yards. It worked in part. I got some, what I thought, were really good friends. Then all of a sudden they didn't want to hang out anymore or talk and two years later they're all gone.

After doing a lot of thinking of what happened in details, that's when I started to finally realize the significance of my Asperger's diagnosis, especially in my social life. Trying to come to terms with the fact that almost everyone who has met me knows something is off and even when I put myself out there, I'll always be treated differently. Not part of a friend group, but one who's always on the periphery.

Hope to meet and make friends of people who would take me being different as an interest to learn, not one as a reason to distance. That silence doesn't mean disinterest necessarily, the opposite is that I have only positive intentions.

Anyways, my long hello to everyone. Looking forward to posting and reading here with ya'll.

Hello Charlie Welcome to Wrong Planet.

Depression, anxiety, difficulty making friends, unexplained lose of friends, and basically seeming a bit off to normal people, yep, you've found your place.

That sense of being on the periphery is my least favourite part of socialising. I even get it occasionally in family situations. I call it my alien feeling (because I feel so disconnected to everything) I sometimes doubt if I'm really there but then sometimes when the alien feeling happens it's right after someone's ignored me or talked over me or just acted like I'm irrelevant.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!