Being ignored, because I'm Autistic.

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I feel weird around other people. People are always ignoring me. Does anyone else feel like me?

I don't have that problem, but welcome to WP!

Tim

I dunno. I feel like ignoring people, sometimes....

Where are you from?

I think some flight attendants have done that to me which is very disappointing!

But, not all of them have!

Yes, I get ignored a lot. I also get people paying way too much attention to me- asking me questions about what I think and stuff, when the fact is I don't even know what's going on because I was looking at the coffee stain on the table and pondering its structure and artistic value. There's no happy medium.

unless it will get you fired, talk over them, it's not like what they have to say is more important

Yes all the time.

Look at the bright side: getting ignored is a lot better than being avoided.

Now how do you realize you're being ignored?
- Do people interrupt you in conversations?
- Do they listen to you without actually taking into account what you said?
- Or do you have the impression that they talk to everyone else except you?

In the first two cases, well, I can give a few reasons even though I'm no professional.

First of all, aspies often use a very precise vocabulary, which most people aren't used to. I think those people are afraid to interact with you, because it makes them feel inferior. At least that's what some of my classmates used to say. It's not comforting at all, I know.

Besides that, have you noticed that many NTs love standing out? They speak loud, they make unneeded noises, they make big gestures. It's easy to get ignored if you're not as annoying as them. If that's the case, you'd better not worry about that kind of people. It's probably not worth it.

Finally, this could sound too obvious, but I'll say it for the sake of completeness: you will always be ignored in big groups (more than 3 people) unless you're giving a speech or something like that.

I'm largely ignored most of the time, but I've gotten used to it. I have a few acquaintances (not friends, but almost), and they never ignore me. Furthermore, I know that we say useful things for each other, so there's no reason to ignore anyone. My advice: find someone who appreciates what you have to say. Get in touch with people similar to you (not necessarily autistic, they could be similar in other ways). And don't try to stand out in big groups, it's not worth your time.

i dont mind being ignored... its not like i want to talk to them, either

I'm sorry to hear you're being ignored.

I tend to have more of a problem with people bullying me than ignoring me. I kind of think I would prefer it if I was ignored - at least instead of bullied.

I do get ignored sometimes - especially when I'm upset or distressed. In a way, it doesn't bother me because I am not an attention seeker, but having said that, there have been times when I have been really distressed and needed (and asked for) help and people ignored me - which does nothing to increase my already limited faith in human nature!

my husband has aspergers i have found people either like him or they dont he cant tell when he is haveing mick taken out of him some people are nice so arnt so good

People ignore me most of the time.I learned not to care too much.

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