REG: I'm carly... no not that one

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Hi everyone.

Hope you all are doing well, my name is Carly. And if you're wondering, no that's not me in my user avatar. I was inspired by a very well-known autistic person, my hero Carly Fleischmann. This inspiration was so much so that I legally got my name changed in her honor earlier this year. I am a 26-year-old transgender person who also happens to have autism. I am for the most part what some would label as "nonverbal" (recent change within the last three years due to stress and other factor including severe physical pain when speaking). But I still manage to hold a volunteer job as a tech-support rep

I have been diagnosed off and on since I was about 15 years old with some form of autism or another by different doctors in carrying capacities including psych wards, various therapists, etc. . Just recently as of the last four months, I finally came to terms with the autism diagnosis after being in denial for so many years prior. It is because of this coming to terms, that I have managed to find more about myself. As accepting the diagnosis has in part alleviated some of my stress, and answered a whole bunch of questions that I've been having for a while.

I hope to learn a lot from my membership in this community, and be of some help, if even just to one person.

My interests include customer service, iCarly, and anything created by Dan Schneider.


I have been through a lot of traumatic experiences, but that's a whole different chat room and website. Let's just say there are plenty of things I wish I could edit off the TimeTrack entirely.


Should you have any further questions comments concerns or other inquiries please feel free to respond to this message. I appreciate the time you've taken to read this, let's get to know each other.

Welcome to WP. I bet your new name will cause confusion though.

Yes, it's caused confusion once before. But once I tack on the words "not the famous one" or "not the carly you're thinking of...", it gets cleared. Most who recognize the source name usually make some comment about how we share names and then I say "yes, she is my hero. That's why I named myself after her"

To differentiate between myself and The Carly I named myself at work, in notes I'm referred to by my employee number or my user ID on our most of our internal tools. Since we all know who that Carly is we just refer to her as "CF" in notes and the like or we denote using call center shorthand (example "Fleischmann, Carly Grace (CI)" instead of "Fleischmann, Carly Grace (CX)") or prefix my name with the words "employee" or the like.

If people le do recognize the name and I explain the story, they say that "she would be proud" or "people name their children all the time after famous people"


I honestly think I was designed to be an almost exact clone of my hero as look at the following very creepy list of similarities:

My hero hero Carly Fleischmann (CF) and I...:
- have brown hair
- have brown eyes
- are autistic*
- are nonverbal
- were born in January

That's a long list of similarities

* statement based on most recent set of labels given me by psychiatrists based on my symptoms and the DSM-5

That's just creepy how the stars aligned in that manner and I was drawn to name myself after such an amazing person (in the eyes of both myself and the company)

Sorry for the rant

Note that I had gone through at least 5-6different name changes internally before finally settling for "Fleischmann, Carly Grace"

Wow! Welcome to Wrongplanet !

Thanks for the welcome!

I was born in January, too. 30 years earlier than you.

That's what so great about the Internet---it allowed Carly to "come out" of her frozen existence.

Welcome to WP!

Yes. Valid. That's what's inspired me. Love the carly Fleischmann story

Hello there! I am Eva and I am a Transgender as well, Male to Female to be exact. Nice to meet you and welcome to Wrong Planet!

I too went through a of stressful situations, and I have since overcome most of my autistic tendencies ever since I discovered my true gender identity. However I still have some weird quirks here and there because of my autism, but nothing really problematic.


I hope you have lots of fun here!

-Eva

Thanks Eva for the welcome

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Wow, I've never been quite that inspired by anyone. That's quite an amazing story.

Also welcome, Eva.

lol I didn't think you were that one...just another individual by that name.

I have from time to time thought of changing my name, but then I don't really know what I'd switch my name to and could be hard getting used to a new name. I am not transgender either though and I imagine that is a factor as to why you changed your name and it seems like you put a lot of thought into it which is cool.

my real name is Natasha.

Data is certainly one of my favorite star trek characters, had to mention that because your avatar.

Well, Natasha, that's a nice name. to be honest work recognized my name and preferred gender as me before the courts did. When I was hired on way back in the dark ages they asked me with what gender I identified with and put it in my employee file. Later they rolled out an update to our HR system that allows me to enter in a "preferred name" that is different from my legal name. Once I filled out all my employee records that had my "old world" information attached were updated across our customer/case tracking software so other employees would not be confused or get the wrong impression, our phone system, internal IM and email, and the employee directory just to name a few places where updates were made once the data was known. heck they even printed me a new ID badge with the new information linked, if that's not forward-thinking... I don't know what is. Work also recognizes me a "married" even though the courts don't yet.

Yes, that is forward-thinking. Is it true that they force you to work 100-hour weeks though? I don't know how people live under those conditions.

No, no 100 hour work weeks for any of the employees. we're all volunteer and can set our own maximum work hours per week. They even give us four "FedEx Days" every year in addition to UNLIMITED time off for medical or bereavement (on the honor system) and 2 weeks every year for vacation. A "FedEx Day" is a day where you choose what project to work on to make the company, the world, or life better. We get one every quarter and we choose the day and it doesn't count against the vacation time, but once January 01, rolls around any unused FedEx days don't roll over so some employees have been known to take their 2 weeks on the Christmas/new years time and do their FedEx days in a row the first weeek of December, or use them one per quarter.

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