Formal or informal?

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My life is very informal and it is often uncomfortable as a result. That is partially due to the uncertainty over what I should be doing in various situations and partly because it is so unpredictable.

I would like it much better if it was far more formal. I have no problem with wearing suits and ties (although I do prefer a bolo tie), but rarely have occasion to wear them. I'd love to be able to wear a western style suit to work (including hat and boots), to go to work and come home from work at a certain time each day, to dress up for supper with supper being at a predictable time, to get a haircut every Saturday, and a predictable food or style of food depending on the day.

So how do others here feel about formal vs informal? Which do you prefer?

In clothing, I admire it in others but have no talent for achieving it in myself (huge understatement). In other areas of my life I can be uncomfortable when people I don't know are too informal but also frustrated when things I am familiar with are very formal. I think the best thing is when there's a nice clear rule so that I know whether I'm supposed to be formal or casual.

I find that if you learn the basic rules for being formal, it's much easier to follow even if it can sometimes be a pain in the neck. It's when it is informal that I get most confused about what to do.

I dress for comfort. I have to. I can't wear shirts they make me feel like I'm going to die. If I try to button them up I start to choke. I usually cannot wear PJs other than shorts either because the tops feel like they are tangling up and strangling me.

My usual attire is jeans and a loose tshirt and maybe a hoodie when it's cold.

When wearing dress shirts, I hate them when the neck is real tight. I try to buy dress shirts with a neck size that is large enough that I can wear a tie and not have it tight at all.

That's one of the advantages to a bolo tie. I always wear a bolo tie somewhat looser than a regular tie and it can be easy to forget that I have it on.

I have seen a bolo tie worn with a t-shirt, but that was rather unusual.

Formal clothing for women such as worn for a wedding are very uncomfortable, and the styles that are acceptable are constantly changing. Uniforms for work are usually much better and well made and they avoid having to make choices.

I wish women's formal clothing meant wearing a tight necked shirt because I hate the back of my neck getting cold. At home I wear all roll necks.

Is that like what we call turtlenecks? At one time, turtlenecks were quite popular. I never wore them then, but I did buy a number in various colors years ago and would frequently wear them.

They are great for men and women. I don't know how it works, but I generally think that a turtleneck makes a woman more attractive.

And for men who don't like to wear ties, a turtleneck is dressy, masculine, and should not be worn with ties. I used to know a college basketball coach who always wore turtlenecks probably because of this.

Yes, although I grew up with them called polo necks, but I wasn't sure if that name was used elsewhere. I love them but I'm always getting told off for wearing them. I like the way they look on other people too, I think they suit most everyone.