Anyone here fear what other family members think of them?

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I have a fear that if my sister ever has a child that her kid won't like me because of my condition. My family doesn't mind me but I feel weird since I don't have any good paying job.

I don't think that you should worry about it

I suppose I had those fears too before I had nephews. They like me much more than I would have imagined. I never had a aunt/uncle I didn't like and they were a diverse bunch. One great-aunt was a possible aspie from the ND side. My ND mom was an only child though.

infants don't discriminate. love a child and they will love you back sooner or later.

my nearest relatives are a 3 hour drive and a ferry away - the next closest ones over 1000 miles. i don't care what they think about my condition.

Hi, catpiecakebutter! Welcome!

Pretty much everyone in my family (including aunts/uncles/cousins) knows I’m on the spectrum and accept me for who I am, and if they didn’t I would stop talking to them. I wouldn’t worry about new nephews/nieces caring about it.

I sometimes worry what my inlaws think of me as I think I'm a bit of a puzzle to them

I'm the oldest aspie in my family of 3 generations of aspies. So I am not overtly disrespected, given my "matriarch" status. I am not always understood by two of my adult children, one BAP and one NT, which can lead to talking past one another at times. Yet at other times we are on the same wavelength. With my grandchildren there is more of an intuitive rapport that is rarely absent from our interactions.

I do feel lucky that the auties are more dominant in number in our multigenerational family. I can't fully imagine how testing and trying it must be for those who are isolated AS people in NT families, though probably have a fair idea, as I have been an AS person in an NT world for so long.

I don't "fear" about what other family members think of me.

I KNOW what they think of me. And it's not really all that good, for the most part---with the partial exception of my mother.

My sister and I do not get along well and I think that's a large predictor of relationship with nieces/nephews. Ironically my sister's daughter has ASD, as I do. We've not been close: I'm not really a "baby" person; I do better with adolescents --- so I recently reached out to her based on our ASD connection. Time will tell. I wasn't "close' with my husband's nephew either until his nephew was a young adult and then I played a critical role in his transition to independence.

In the past I have always felt: my sister is disgusted by me. Now I am realizing... I am rather disgusted by her. Sometimes I think about improving the relationship, other times I think to let it go. (She is estranged from others.) Time will tell.

I haven't seen my relatives since the turn of the century.

Yes definitely, especially some members of my dad's family. Some of them are great but others aren't very accepting of differences of any kind and I don't like being around them so I avoid them as much as I can.

All of my original family are passed.My wife's family treat me fine now is that because of my wife? My wife is able to take care of things with my problems.

I have a fear that my daughter wont like me when she gets older. I have always been pretty opposed to the status quo and the direction of society. I fear that as she gets older she will become more engrossed in pop-culture and the pejorative norm and see me as an oppressive force. The rest of my family accept me. I have clashed with family members from time to time, but I think since they can not just avoid me, they have come to accept that I am very frank and direct. Some of my family have even come to appreciate my honesty.

Why don't you have a good job, have you tried coding?

I can't said for sure but both of my daughters always have my best interest at heart,so have faith in her.