01 Dec 2020, 12:52 pm
Just realized that i never introduced myself here on WP...My autobiographical information on my WP profile, clearly specifies the primary reason why i joined this platform...I am NT, happily married to my beloved (yet undiagnosed Aspie) husband...With whom, of course, i struggle to connect emotionally due to our neurological differences...This forum was recommended to me by a professional as a place where i would find a friendly atmosphere for those of us who love someone with autistic traits...Since i first joined this community in late September, i have not been disappointed...You are great!! !...I have benefited from your support already...Thank you... 
However, i just realized that i must clarify my position with respect to private messages...I will not be responding to private messages from male members...And please, please, please, do not take offense...I AM HAPPILY MARRIED...I am here to acquired a better understanding of the autistic brain...With the purpose of improving communication with my beloved Aspie husband...I AM NOT INTERESTED IN CULTIVATING FRIENDSHIPS WITH OTHER MEN--not online not in the real world...not in WP nor any other internet platform...
If i were open to dedicate my time to communicate with other men, here or anywhere else, my intentions could easily be misinterpreted...In fact, i would be spending time and directing attention that 'belongs' exclusively to my beloved (Aspie) husband...TO ME, THIS IS A MATTER OF LOYALTY...Loyalty that i owe to my beloved (Aspie) husband who is unaware that i joined this community...And who deserves my UNDIVIDED ATTENTION, TIME, and RESPECT even when he is not physically present with me...Also, i take this strict stand out of RESPECT to the institution of marriage...For i am a strong believer that if one has issues within the marriage, these must be addressed within the marriage...
Having said all of the above, i want to thank those of you, male or female, NTs, and specially those of you on the spectrum, who have been so kind to me with your positive feedback on some of my posts...Thank you...And best wishes to you all wonderful, good-hearted, and understanding Aspies...
01 Dec 2020, 2:36 pm
01 Dec 2020, 2:59 pm
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01 Dec 2020, 5:07 pm
Greetings! 
One forum that may continue to be a great help for you to understand your husband more thoroughly is the General Autism Discussion forum where you can get help from anyone.
01 Dec 2020, 9:07 pm
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Hello
01 Dec 2020, 9:16 pm
Perhaps you should also write your honest easy to understand statement on your profile.
I am sure people will understand and I am sure men will not contact you via PM if you do.
Men with ASD are rarely predatory in nature, and often are more awkward and perhaps inept in such matters.
Including myself, and i have perhaps been more successful than the average man with ASD, but i am still fairy clueless.
Hope your time of this forum continues to be helpful and welcoming.
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Please allow me to clarify that my time on this platform has been very pleasant...No, i have NOT had any negative experience whatsoever...And yes, i totally agree with you in that ASD men are NOT predatory...Quite the contrary, you are good-hearted and honest...Two of many qualities i most admire in my beloved (Aspie) husband...My post is mostly PREVENTIVE not reactive...(In the world of NTs, people are JUDGEMENTAL
)...And yes, i will follow your recommendations...Please stay safe you all wonderful Aspies...
01 Dec 2020, 9:21 pm
One forum that may continue to be a great help for you to understand your husband more thoroughly is the General Autism Discussion forum where you can get help from anyone.
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Thank you...Yes, i have accessed that and other forums...Very insightful information...I am learning...Since i have been in this community, my conflicts with my beloved (Aspie) husband have diminished considerably...Because i am beginning to understand him...Hopefully, with time, i won't be as clueless as i have been...
01 Dec 2020, 9:35 pm
But to be honest, it isn't *all* about me.
Others have been helpful also, I'm sure.
Don't look at *me*, people.
I have never sent a clueless PM.
Please verify this, Clueless2017.
Wow.
The things that happen behind the scenes, that I am clueless about.
If you like, I can find you a stick to beat unwanted suitors off.
There *is* a setting that can block *all* PMs to you, btw.
If I find any, I'll pass the message on.
03 Dec 2020, 6:58 am
But to be honest, it isn't *all* about me.
Others have been helpful also, I'm sure.
Don't look at *me*, people.
I have never sent a clueless PM.
Please verify this, Clueless2017.
Wow.
The things that happen behind the scenes, that I am clueless about.
If you like, I can find you a stick to beat unwanted suitors off.
There *is* a setting that can block *all* PMs to you, btw.
If I find any, I'll pass the message on.
LOL...You made me laugh, Pepe
...As you always do with your good sense of humor...Thank you for your understanding...Don't ever change this beautiful quality in you...About private messages, i am open to the possibility of friendships with females on the spectrum...I would be elated! Post Script: Please relax, everyone, as i clarified my boundaries...Please know that my post was PREVENTIVE not reactive...Ok???! !!...Greetings from my locked-down state, CA...
