Why is he so rude to me?

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My man sometimes makes me feel stupid. When I am trying to complete a thought or offer my opinion, he interrupts and continues making his own thoughts known. I wait until he is done speaking to begin speaking. It gets so frustrating sometimes I just give up and don't respond. Then, after he's done with his rant and sees I have given up, he tries to get me to speak again. Its weird. He is NT.

In one instance, I was telling him about a toddler I cared for during the day and how well she's progressing in her speech and physical thereapy. He kept interrupting with rude comments. It got so frustrating that I just stopped sharing the story. But when I stopped, he wanted to hear the rest of the story. I refused to tell him and as a result, he kept trying to get me to share the rest of the story. I never did.

I don't think he realizes he hurts my feelings when he does this. Any suggestions or advice?

Maybe he has ADHD and his interrupting comes from poor impulse control. Or maybe you have a tendency to ramble (I do) and he's gotten in the habit of interrupting you. My husband is also NT and he often did the same thing, interrupting my story with something completely different. I used to ignore that rudeness, respond to what he said, and then go back on track afterward, but since my diagnosis I've begun stopping the conversation when he interrupts, and neither answering him nor continuing my own tale. This made him realize how rude and offensive his interruptions really were to me, and he's pretty much stopped them. Plus, it's made me gather my thoughts better and shorten my stories so that I no longer ramble so much needlessly. So I think you're doing the right thing by totally dropping the subject when he interrupts. Once you do that enough, he'll probably get the message. Good luck!

Thanks, unnamed!

Good advice from Unnamed. Better than throwing the frying pan at him.

that you can tell him, even in writing if necessary, that when he does that it makes sparks fly in your brain as your neurons begin misfiring due to his interruption(that's how it feels to me personally).

My husband and i have a horrible time communicating sometimes, because i take everything so literally. We have had to really learn to communicate over the past year, because it was affecting our relationship.

He really may not know that he does it...or that it is impolite to interupt. Definately do as the above posters suggested, but, i think when you are with someone, you just have to learn to communicate somehow.

Writing was more effective with my man....he has a hard time with auditory processing, and quits hearing. I do that too, so i understand that is what he is doing.

Dont continue to let someone make you feel bad, though. It is just much too hard to not wind up depressed, if the other person seems to neglect your feelings.

tyger
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i tend to interject in convos at the wrong time myself... so i try to be lenient when im interrupted...

but if it's something common... try talking about it and making an effort to work on it with him