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Hi! I am new to the wrong planet. I am 38 years old and am divorced with 2 boys who live with their mother in Texas. My oldest son has been diagnosed with Aspergers and my youngest is being homeschooled this year becuase of public school problems. They both are currently on various ADH meds. I haven't been diagnosed but I know I have it and my dad had it.

I married my high school sweetheart and I have never dated. I have not been able to meet many new people and the people I do meet seem to take advantage of me after a while because I am too trusting and naive. I have almost given up and I have been celibate for 4 years.

Does anyone have any advice on dating? Really I just need someone to talk to, I have just come to grips that I will have this thing for life and am trying to understand where I need to go from here. I understand there is no cure and you can only treat the axiety and depression with meds. I would also like to help my boys understand so they don't have to go through the hell that was my childhood.

Welcome to WP!

Tim

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Welcome to WP! I hope you are blessed by your time here.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

I am currently in the process of getting my official diagnosis and am waking up my family and some dear friends in the process. I had to check myself in to Austin State Hospital to recieve anxiety meds and rispadone, one week supply. I spent 4 days in the crazy house and have stories to tell about my experience. I have a physciatrist visit (initial visit) set up through my company's EAP program, work referral, mandandory. My company has been very supportive and needs my help desperately in purchasing. I read entire volumes of encyclopedias by age five, and was taught to self-medicate as a child and be ashamed of my intellect. In eight grade, I scored in the top 2 percent on a national test of children my age nationally. By age 12, I was running away and stealing food from grocery stores and sleeping in newspaper bins. I had the mind of an adult in the body of a slightly autistic child. I acted out and broke out of my JDH when busted for shoplifting. That was my only felony, they couldn't get me for escape, so they charged my with criminal mischief. I left home at 17 and didn't look back except for the occasional visit. I am now being promoted to a buyer position in my company soon with an increase in pay and salaried. I am ready to accept who I am and use my powers for good, like professor X. I am a little like data from Star Trek with some Captain Beyond mixed in. I believe autism is anti-matter, like einstein predicted early, present in the human body and we can learn to expel and attact this anti-matter. We have six nerves from our eyes to our brain. We only have five senses? What is the six nerve for? I think since we were born without having to store the complexities of social interaction, we have a little more brain to play with. What are y'all's thoughts? I have always had more questions than answers.

Thank you for your time.

Nothing is trivial and everything matters, except anti-matter.

mojo123

Welcome to WP. Your story was fascinating to read.

Can't say I can give you any dating advice - I've been in the same relationship for 15 years.

There are Aspie dating sites - maybe you could try joining one?

Helen

You remind me of Inventor. He does not post here often because he is too busy inventing things, but he lurks.

As you get more into this place you may learn what your 6th nerve is for. Many here have a sixth sense.

Good luck and welcome.

Thanks fellow aspians,

I think the desire for sameness has us wanting to have one mate for life, or to never marry and constantly date and be alone.

I've wrapped my head around this thing is forever, I was talking to squirrels and birds in their native language at the crazy house and was waking everyone up there. I stood up in front of ~ 40 aspies that were being released from the mental facility and told them to remember this:

1. Believe in yourself
2. Be good to yourself
3. Never give up
4. Believe that God has a plan for you and everyone.

I love the languages of earth and have a special place in my heart for Ralph Waldo Emerson and Henry David Thoreau, early american writers that are now called transcendentalists. I love music and art and culture and movies, god I love movies! : ^ )