HI! 50 yr old man. Off the charts ASD. My new life...

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yr old man. Off the charts ASD. My new life...
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bradlandreth
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Hi everyone!!

I am Brad. A 50 year old man who came from nothing, did well, lost it all, alcohol the prescription meds, brain lesions, over a dozen heart attacks, coded twice and I just signed papers on my 3rd divorce. I have had an adventurous life which, and I know a lot of people think this, but it would make an awesome Forrest Gump style movie, actually a couple of them. But that's not why I am here.

I have been married a little over a year this time and we were only together a month or so before marrying. Before you say anything, it was and is love, we just argue. The marriage, arguing and divorce forced some time apart and I went for a month long train trip. Oh and I have an IQ of about 125-130. Oh I used to take all of my toys apart to see how they worked and I don't and have never really had friends. (Any of this starting to add up?)

I have taken all of the assessments online and each one a number of times and am WAY off the charts on everything. I know a lot of people don't trust them but when you take that many from different places and your score is that high and you know you are way different then there's something there It is scary honestly how I am able to mask this much.

There's a TON more but suddenly after 13 years of trying to figure out the brain lesions my entire life started coming into focus like putting on glasses for the first time and realizing you are supposed to see the leaves more clearly. Then suddenly it was like there was a shift in the matrix and my entire life seemed like it wasn't me. Everything started to make sense but at the same time nothing made sense. I feel like a completely different person constantly right now. I am not quite sure who I really am.

On top of it my mother just had open heart surgery two weeks ago, my father has parkinsons, my 3 boys who are in their 20's are clearly on the spectrum. I have also taken the PTSD, anxiety, etc, etc, and am off the charts. Oh and my ex just got a restraining order all based on lies (I would gladly take a lie detector) but I told the just I would rather take the restraining order than to ever say something bad about her, especially in public.

Yes I am stressed LOL

So HELLO!! !! !! I hope I am not too much for you guys!! !

Hi Brad, and welcome to WP
Your situations are all uniquely yours, yet all that stuff seems pretty bog standard for Wrong Planet.
All of us have mental haemorrhoids from sitting on the pointy end of too many bell curves.
I hope you enjoy being here.

Thank you! Just wanted to introduce myself. Hopefully I can stay active here and contribute. Thank you!! !

Howdy Howdy Howdy

Well, we have all seen our share of drama too.

On my 50th Birthday, my present was Divorce papers, and I lost a considerable portion of my net worth. It was really a lousy situation in which I had been lied to repeatedly for years & my Ex simply fleeced me year by year of money until the decision was made to Bail and extract the IRA money, too through the courts.

You have to put all of that behind you now and move on with the Present & Future, not dwell upon the past.

It is common for people with ASD to be victimized by serial liars of the neurotypical persuasion. I think it is a basic mistake to hook up with an NT, I think that the NT is always going to have a strategic advantage over someone ASD. At any moment, they can victimize us, should they choose to do so, the only thing stopping them are moral considerations and what relevance does that have for the majority?

Yet there is no point in anger or emotions of that nature, I would recommend instead Acceptance of Destiny.

There are other things in life that are more interesting actually than romantic entanglements. For example, chess.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Hiya.. Welcome to wrong planet ....yoou have quite the baggage there....? Oddly enough , it sure looks identical to the baggage many Aspies carry throughout there lives. Best wishes with your affairs too.

bradlandreth, Welcome to Wrong Planet.

It sounds like you are in the right place. You are at the edge. Not a good place to be.

alcohol the prescription meds, brain lesions, over a dozen heart attacks, coded twice

If you wish to go on living, you will need to make very dramatic changes in your lifestyle. But you probably already know this.

There is probably a way to repair the damage. It is sleep and exercise. And in your case you will need to offload many of the drugs that cloud your brain from working at top level.

bradlandreth, Welcome to WP! I hope it works out well for you.

P.S. You only have to show proof you met the Mensa selection criteria once. If you've gotten an assortment of results than just look at the best result you can document.