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Hello everyone,

This is my first post, so I guess I should tell a little about myself. I'm 31, married, and the father of 2 boys ages 6 and 2. My wife is an NT, of course when we married neither her nor I know that I was an Aspie. Now she has both an Aspie husband and an Aspie son.

I came to find out about Asperger's earlier this year when my oldest son was diagnosed with it. Until then, I'd never heard of it. But what was a real shock was to hear that what defined him as being an Aspie were things I did at his age. Then I began reading more about it and kept having the same "wow, that's me!" thoughts.

I've always been extremely reserved. One NT once told me I have a real decerning tongue, which I wasn't sure was his way of saying I never talk or if he was actually envious of my personality. Until I graduated college, my father didn't think I'd make it in life because I was so quiet outside of our house. But even through all this I'd always thought of myself as extremely shy and nothing more.

But I've proved him wrong. I made it through college, I've married and had a family. I've worked the last 9 years as a computer programmer and have been done alright with that.

But AS is still so much a part of me. I've done well professionally even though honestly, I get bored at work very easily. I'll go months spending every break period surfing the web for my lastest interest. Eye contact drives me crazy, although I'm getting better at it. But I always feel like I'm either totally avoiding it, or I'm staring. I'm worried sometimes too that my son's AS and mine are going to be a problem. Especially in those moments where I'm wanting to be by myself and he's wanted to play, or times when my inflexiblity and his has caused conflicts. I'm worried that as he gets older it would be worse. I'd really love to hear more from AS parents and how they handled parenting.

It's been really amazing to read others who have had such similar experiences as myself and I look forward to more interaction here.

We are a rather varied group, contrary to popular belief. Welcome! I hope you enjoy it here!

Welcome! This is a good group to hang out with.

I'm not an aspie parent myself, but I do have an aspie sister and a father who is suspected to have AS as well.

Hi, georgiaspie! I'm glad to see an addition to the over-30 crowd here.

Welcome to WP! Another married with child, successful aspie male here. I hope you enjoy the diverse crowd and all the good informational exchange you will find on this bitchin' site.

Welcome to Wrong Planet Georgiaspie! This is the BEST board on the net!!

Welcome! I'm also married with children. Glad you found us.

Welcome to WP georgiaspie... a lot of your story is pretty familiar. I am married with three kids and only found out I have AS when my son was diagnosed three years ago.

As I'm filling in for BlackLiger, our official groarer, I must also give you your welcome Groar:

GROAAAAR

Dunc (and BlackLiger)

Hi, georgiaspie, welcome!

I'm Jason Larsen. I know the feeling you have. It is interesting that people consider they are aspies, and then they find out that other people are aspies as well.

Most of us are not a narrow-minded group of people. We want to interact, but we just have some trouble. The goal of Wrongplanet is for people with AS to get together and talk about how they fit in with each other.

We have about 1000 members here, and you are one of them. I'm glad you joined this forum.

Hello and welcome...nice to have you here!

Hi welcome, I'm Shawn , 38, and am located in SC. Enjoy yourself here.