New here Mum of 3 1/2 yr old Harry Asperger's ADHD HELP

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Ok, Im sure everyone is sick of newcomers, but this was the only site I found with a forum where I thought I might be able to get some help / advice with my little boy. I feel really lost and guilty about Harry. I so want to help him, but I just am not sure how to. He was diagnosed with Asperger's almost 4 months ago but it was picked up when he started nursery last year. It was picked up immediately I might add, but I hadn't realised there was anything different about him. (I have a 5 year old daughter and was told boys are like that!) Anyway, he is due to start school in April and he still wont go to the toilet, still talks very loudly at the top of his voice (mostly reciting from the TV), is very hyperactive and wont listen (Im sure all this sounds familliar to a lot of you?) but I dont seem to be getting any help. Someone comes over once every couple of months from the Child Development Centre and plays with him to see what he can do - level of learning but apart from that, I cant see any development and am worried for him starting school. I so want to help him. I have various books I have read cover to cover and obviously a lot of searching on the internet, but is there ANY advice anyone can give me? We live in the UK, Bedford. Any emails / advice would really be appreciated. Sorry for such a long note, this is my first x many thanks - Kim

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Tim

I would try to get Harry to take fish oil daily 1-2 grams daily. Though if he is any thing like my 3 year nephew your going to find it hard to get him to take it. My 5 year old nephew can swallow a fish a 1000 mg gelcap of fish oil. Anyway it might help some.

Other ideas is to use flax oil. My nephews love plain pasta with butter and parmesan cheese. One of these days I want to make them some flax butter. Which would be made by combining flax oil with butter. Though flax oil is heat sensitive and you can not really cook with it. Walnuts or omega-3 enriched eggs are another source of good fats.

I am a 49 year old male diagnosed last year as ADD and this year as mixed Asperger's/ADD.
1. Still won't go to the toilet: I used to be afraid of toilets! I was afraid that I'd get "sucked down". You may want to check on that. Or he may be unaware of body sensations (may not be aware that he has to go).
2. talks very loudly and won't listen: he may have a central auditory brain processing disorder. I do. Wasn't even aware of it until last year when I took ADD medication for the first time and it "ungarbled" the sounds coming into my ears. Found out I was talking in low growls that people could not hear, much less understand. When he is talking too loudly and you ask him to turn down the volume of his voice, does he seem confused? Does he "zone out" when more than one person is talking at the same time? Does he understand you well in one-on-one conversations with you when he can see your face and read your lips? Is he talking loud to be sure that he has your attention?
3. very hyperactive: make sure that he has the opportunity to get lots of exercise! Martial arts helped me tremendously. But I also ran, swam, lifted weights, rode bikes, and did gymnastics. Was very physically active in the U.S. Marine Corps. Now I'm a pharmacist.

Best wishes, and good luck!
Chuck

It sounds as if you're not getting much help from your Child Development Center -- if this is going to be the case, you are probably going to have to do work on your own.

I would suggest buying a book like Behavioral Intervention for Young Children with Autism at the following link:

http://www.amazon.com/Behavioral-Interv ... 7?ie=UTF8I &s=books&qid=1189601727&sr=8-3

This sort of book can help you start a program with your son that can help prepare him for school, and life in general. You might ask your Child Development Center if they provide any services like this. If not, you might be able to recruit friends and/or relatives to help act as "therapists" for your child, helping him to control his voice, share with other children, play appropriately, etc. There is a lot you can do on your own to help your child.

Kris

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