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My name is Kim and I have triplets that will be 11 this aug and a 21/2 year old. Two of my triplets are boys and in the past two years have been diagnosed with aspergers syndrome. So im trying to learn all I can and find resources for myself. My school tries to do the best they can but I have 3 kids in 4th grade and I never seem to do enough in there eyes to get them to do the best they can in there school. They have quiet areas to work in to get it done. I help them when they allow me to help them. We are busy the kids are involved in scouts and dance but my son Ian hes quiet and said this is the last year of dance he wants to move on he can be so quiet but then he gets into everything he has adhd and worries alot ontop of the aspergers and then there is Peter he talks and talks till he drives you nuts and he is the polar opposite of the Ian and its strange they both have the same type of autism. All three of the triplets 2 have adhd and my daughter has add . I think god thought it would be amusing to do this but Im not laughing. I was given the diagnoses and then hardly any help. Were going to be starting in home counceling after the new year to help us better understand the autism and start up a family plan and such like that. Im trying to learn new ways to deal with them when they break the rules in the house because sometimes I get to my wits end and start screaming which I dont want to do.
I have two typical kids too and im trying to find things that everyone can do and how to discipline them when they do something wrong. I wish I had a room for stress breaks and such for them I think its a piece of the problems but we have a small house with no basement wish we did then they could go chill out there for a little while and have sensory break.

If anyone has children in my age group and have advice Id love some if you have any books you think I should read or websites you think I should check out Im trying to find all the information I can out there and you can send it to me directly [email protected] Thanks for any assistance from anyone.

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Hey!

Welcome to Wrong Planet. I'd recomend looking at the OASIS website www.aspergersyndrome.org and there book for parents of aspies, which is pretty good and has alot of advise and such. When it comes to Asperger's information I personally feel that Tony Attwood has the best sources out there so checking him out. It sounds like you have a pretty hectic situation, don't feel quilty about takeing some time for yourself as you'll need it.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Hi Kim,

welcome to WP

I'm sure you will find plently of support and information here on this site...it's a great place to be.

I don't think god gave your kids AS and ADHD for his own amusement. He is not trying to punish you...he gave you some very special kids that you can embrace! Obviously thought that you would be a good advocate for autism awareness.

Anyway, hope you enjoy posting here.

Welcome,

I have no idea how mothers survive. I would be hiding on the roof.

Try the parents forum. They do that sort of stuff.

Moms are supposed to be strong and get everything done but somedays with two kids with as its like a tornado hit my house nothing is organized its terrible and Im trying hard to organize everything but I get something going and boom it looks like my house exploded.

Im doing my best I can were starting witha n in home councelor after the first of the year so that should help some and she can explain all this to us and how to properly handel everything because its tough and people looking in just think I have unruley kids and I dont teach them right from wrong but I do and always have but sometimes things happens and they run through church after mass is over and they say hey whats the problem with you r kids I say they have autism and they say well he doesnt look ret*d then I want to scream and say not all people with autsim are ret*d man I wish the whole world would just understand everyone has differences and I have 4 kids 2 with problems that have been diagnosed but I still have a younger one I keep an eye on very closely because I dont want her to get lost in the loop.

Thanks for the info on the books and sites if anyone else has suggestions on books and sites let me know I can use all the help I can get.

All you can do is your best, it takes a lot of strength to raise autistic kids even if it doesn't always look like it from the outside. You are working hard to help them and seeking help for what you need and that takes more strength than most can know. It's good you paying special attention to your youngest, even if she is NT she will still need support. Don't let those people get you down because of their ignorance. I never liked those kinds of people myself, attacking my mom because I was different and they didn't understand why. It hurts to find that they are acting like that at your church, where there should be more acceptance and compassion. Mass can be long even for NT kids after all. Maybe you could talk with your priest and he could work autism into a homily or let you (or another if your not comfortable) speak about it so the parish could learn, and thus understand better.

well The two boys one is really good and he likes church he sits with me and my daughter my other son and the baby sit in the crying room with my husband that way they dont just stare at me like im a science project. Im doing the best I cant with what I got it just gets to me people just judge you but Im trying to find websites and such because were starting a support group for parents at my kids school because there isnt much in this area for assistance where I live.I want to give other parents that have autistic kids places to look at and i will let them know about this site when we have a meeting in January. I acutally learned about this site from the author of Look Me in The Eye John Robison I met him and hes really nice he has abs and he took right to my son Ian and hes an excellent speaker.

If anyone can give me more suggestions on books, websites or others Id appreciate it alot.

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Welcome to WP!

Tim

Nice to meet you, Kim.

Hello Kim,

Welcome to WP! I have 3 sons aged 9, 7 and 4. My 9 and 7 year old were both diagnosed with Asperger's this year. My 4 year old son has many Aspie traits but is happy so we haven't bothered taking him off for an assessment.

Actually Inventor, I hide in the toilet at times. Take in a good book, put the lid down and sit on the lid.



Inventor is right, there are lots of parents with >1 child diagnosed with Asperger's who can give you heaps of good advice.

I also recommend Tony Attwood.

Helen

Hello and welcome to Wrongplanet

Thanks it s just nice to know not alone because some days I sure feel Like I am and the school just looks down on you like you r the worst parent sometimes . The school has dropped the ball several times already with the programs at the kids school all three are in 4th grade different class rooms and the teachers who have my boys didnt read there files and didnt know not to move them into a middle row and near a window no sensory breaks nothing and thens he is wondering why my son isnt doing so well and of course it has to do with home and it couldnt be anything they are doing that would be making him not happy at school could it be. SOmetimes I just want to get in the car and keep going but cant do that but were going to get some in home counceling for us through free system that you sing up for they help youlearn more about the autism and help yo u figure out how your supposed to help your kids along. Im also checking into alternative schooling for our boys that take into considerations that they have problems and cant always be there paying attention 100 % of the time but if I find a program I like then I have to get the school to approve of them onto a wait list because if they were taken into the program then the school will have to pay for them to go and transportation and thats prob. why they didnt tell me of this program in first place thesre are several around my state its just finding the right ones for t hem.

Well thanks and any imput is welcomed.