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Well, where do I begin? I am 24 (if you want to be technical, in a few days) and have always been "different". I am getting married at the end of the month, and amazingly enough, he's also an aspie. I consider this a grand stroke of luck, because I would have never thought marriage possible, let alone to someone that has NEVER called me weird. I found this website after being sat down and interrogated by my parents as to whether any of my future children would have a "higher than normal" incidence of being born with autism. After all these years, and they still don't understand. Not to say that I can comprehend all the intricacies of the way my brain functions, but of all the people in the world I would have assumed they to be the ones not to be concerned with future problems. So, in lieu of an answer, I searched the Internet to see if I could find any type of information to assuage their fears. Or, if anything, make myself see that I am not the only person in this position. The thing is, I don't have any issues with the way I am. In a rude way, I don't care what others think. And then I find this site, and I realize that I'm normal. In a way only aspies can be. So I guess, along with a vague introduction, this is also a thank you and a hello to everyone else.

Hi and welcome to the "right" Planet.

I'm with in the fact that I have no problem with being an aspie, also sure my husband is one his decision not to really what to know either way... anyway, my older son has been diagnosed with non verbal learning and told with asperger traits, crossovers! younger son also seems to have traits. But both of them are very neat intelligent children.. I truly believe there are 2 sets of people on this planet and tend to get on with aspie ones, so more of us should get together and have more little aspies in my opinion

That made me smile. My family claims to have no 'problems' at all, yet my fiancee's mother (who is a nurse) knew that he was different. Perhaps it was the fact he didn't speak until he was four. The beautiful thing was, when he did speak, it was full and complete sentences. That being said, he was quoting movies he had remembered, and the quotes pertained to the situations, so she knew he was very intelligent. I love the way that he's a genius to me, and the fact that he can say something so far out of left field, literally out of nowhere. (I've been told I do this also.) His father is an amazing man who has his passion in computers, and his brother as well. Both of them are undiagnosed Aspies. (I just know it.) Kindred souls I suppose. I may not have much when it comes to social graces, but those who give me half a chance call me the human encyclopedia. I take that as a compliment, and can only hope my future children will share some of the positive traits of Aspergers that I have come to appreciate.

Nice to meet you, MorningGlory.

Welcome MorningGlory,

Good job marrying an aspie.

We all choose one of the three paths;
a Marry Aspies
b Marry NT's who slowly pick up aspie traits
c Don't stay married/Don't get married...

I'm in (b), and you're obviously in (a).

Welcome to WP MorningGlory, and congratulations!!

A lot of us on this site are proud to be aspies too.

To WrongPlanet!! !

Thank you, and nice to meet you all. gbollard, I really could not have done it any other way. We still wonder about how we managed to get together. He would come into the store I worked in nearly 3 days a week for 3 years, and we never spoke once! But after the first date, we knew it would be forever. I'm really very lucky. I don't have to explain to him "why I am the way I am". We can sit together in a room, both reading neither speaking, and be perfectly content. Neither of us ever say, "Hey I know, let's go out to a bar, surround ourselves with loud drunken people and rub elbows with the social elite!" More like, let's cook dinner and go for a walk. I can only wish all aspies could find someone they can be themselves with, without feeling the pressure to be something they are not. I dated a NT for a while, but he would get soo angry when I wouldn't go out with him to parties or bars, or when I would have panic attacks at the thought of his HUGE family gatherings they had like once a month...

Welcome to WP!

Thank you, Tim

Hi!

Welcome to Wrongplanet!

I hope you enjoy posting here!

i found my way here too

Hi! I feel the same way, it seems i´ve found a place in wich I don´t feel odd being just me. The fact that you find another aspie and you´re getting married to him seems amazing..I wish one day I find an aspie chick for me haha ..I watched Mozart and the Whale and I´m looking for my Isabelle ever since ..sadly I don´t even know any Aspie in my city.

Anyways welcome I´m also knew to the site

I don't remember what the stats on children are, but I gave birth to three of my children.
One is NT and very intelligent, works as an artist in the video game industry
One is aspie and very intelligent, works as a programmer in the video game industry
One has autism plus retardation, bi-polar, OCD, seizure disorder, non-verbal and occasionally violent, lives a life of leisure in her own home with a companion and 24/7 supervision.

I assume that often an aspie doesn't identify their differences as having Aperger's. We know we are different, we are just unsure as to how or why. I seem to attract a certain personality type, so I was lucky to find him (my aspie fiancee.) And luck had to be the only way! A funny thing about Aspie relationships, though...One would think that the entire process would be easier. At times, I think, personally, it's just as difficult if not worse. (Than say, an aspie/NT relationship.) All aspies have different traits, and let me tell you, they can cause problems on both sides. At least we both have the basic understanding behind what drives us to our 'extremes'. Perhaps that is our relationship's true cement. Besides being completely antisocial.
As for future children, only time will tell. I have no preconceived notions as of yet. Regardless, I am sure I will love them unconditionally.

Hello MorningGlory